I had a bit of an epiphany yesterday. When my family all got together and had each one had a same quality of projecting abandonment. My stepfather's grandmother was abandoned by her parents at 16 when her dad chucked her out of the house. My step- father was abandoned by her continually emotionally when he was a kid because she was so scared of abandonment she controlled him rather than raise him. My mum caught the train home to her mum when she was 3 months pregnant with me after her partner had bashed her. My maternal grandmother told her to go back where she came from and abandoned her .I was the first born grandchild and child, My paternal grandmother loved me until I was 9, then withdrew her love and abandoned me emotionally when her son told her I had been bad(A lie to isolate me). My father gave me lots of emotional love( manipulative), then sexually abused (the ultimate abandonment) and abandoned me and treated me like I was dead when I was 9, my mum kicked me out of the house to live with my aunt when I was 10 and changed her mind that night.When I was 19 , my dad abandoned me again by screaming and yelling at me for having opportunites and experiences and not sitting down and rotting. I was then abandoned emotionally by my mum and grandmother again when I came out and told the truth about my dad abusing me. My mum didn't talk to me for 2 years.
Isn't it wonderful the damage that a family with similar qualities can inflict on the first born child and grandchild is it? Why do these people with similar dsyfunctional qualities always get together. Do they aim to create a child with PTSD? lol.
Isn't it wonderful the damage that a family with similar qualities can inflict on the first born child and grandchild is it? Why do these people with similar dsyfunctional qualities always get together. Do they aim to create a child with PTSD? lol.
