Determinedone
Bronze Member
Hello, I'm new to this forum but so grateful I found it. Sigh... Let me see where to begin. I've got a lot of history with my husband. We've been together more than 20 years. He's my soulmate, we rarely fight and our love in beyond anything you've seen in movies.
3 and a half years ago he went overseas with his job. It was a mutual decision he said it was so we could have more. The I eat one was only 6 months. He returned and things were fine. He was home almost a year before he went on the next deployment. That one was the worst he was gone a whole year. He came home and it took some time to adjust, mostly on his part. He left again and when he returned 6 mths later he was quik to get angry. He left again and about 3 weeks later he said not to send him packages anymore, don't call an complain about the kids and I was naggin him?
This was not like him at all.
We usually spend the first two days together when he returns and suddenly he just popped in. No warning. Well that enraged him because the house wasn't spotless. But keep in mind I was taking on both roles, plus I was in school and I was working part time. Well that didn't matter. He was rude as he could b until he left.
The most recent time is when he came home for good. He once again surprised me and came to the job is just got two months prior. He seemed tense, yet happy we went to lunch and after we headed home. Once again the house wasn't the way he wanted it but now I've got a full time job along with a part time job, school and my art which I just can't give up. Yet in his eyes I just couldn't maintain and he spent the next 6 weeks acting like a drill Sargent riding my butt every day hen I got home about the house. I worked all day came home and cooked, then cleaned until almost midnight very night. He took the summer off to get reacquainted with the kids. Yet he never had dinner ready. Said it wasn't his job.
It took him months to unpack his bag from overseas. He sleeps on top of the cover in his military blanket. He doesn't seem to enjoy touch, or affection. Emotions aren't there anymore for not only him but our children and close friends. Yet he says he's unhappy and I'm the cause? Everything that goes wrong is my fault? Everyone notices the change in him. It's been almost 2 years since he's been home and only minimal change, things can be good for a few days but then they go back to him pulling away.
I've lost my closest friends because they think I'm a fool and don't support me. They believe he's got another woman and just doesn't want me anymore. According to all the signs it's ptsd. Struggling to find answers.... Missing the man I love. I'm to strong to give up my soulmate, I can still see the love in his eyes.....
3 and a half years ago he went overseas with his job. It was a mutual decision he said it was so we could have more. The I eat one was only 6 months. He returned and things were fine. He was home almost a year before he went on the next deployment. That one was the worst he was gone a whole year. He came home and it took some time to adjust, mostly on his part. He left again and when he returned 6 mths later he was quik to get angry. He left again and about 3 weeks later he said not to send him packages anymore, don't call an complain about the kids and I was naggin him?
This was not like him at all.
We usually spend the first two days together when he returns and suddenly he just popped in. No warning. Well that enraged him because the house wasn't spotless. But keep in mind I was taking on both roles, plus I was in school and I was working part time. Well that didn't matter. He was rude as he could b until he left.
The most recent time is when he came home for good. He once again surprised me and came to the job is just got two months prior. He seemed tense, yet happy we went to lunch and after we headed home. Once again the house wasn't the way he wanted it but now I've got a full time job along with a part time job, school and my art which I just can't give up. Yet in his eyes I just couldn't maintain and he spent the next 6 weeks acting like a drill Sargent riding my butt every day hen I got home about the house. I worked all day came home and cooked, then cleaned until almost midnight very night. He took the summer off to get reacquainted with the kids. Yet he never had dinner ready. Said it wasn't his job.
It took him months to unpack his bag from overseas. He sleeps on top of the cover in his military blanket. He doesn't seem to enjoy touch, or affection. Emotions aren't there anymore for not only him but our children and close friends. Yet he says he's unhappy and I'm the cause? Everything that goes wrong is my fault? Everyone notices the change in him. It's been almost 2 years since he's been home and only minimal change, things can be good for a few days but then they go back to him pulling away.
I've lost my closest friends because they think I'm a fool and don't support me. They believe he's got another woman and just doesn't want me anymore. According to all the signs it's ptsd. Struggling to find answers.... Missing the man I love. I'm to strong to give up my soulmate, I can still see the love in his eyes.....
