Relationship Dealing With My Husband After A Suicide Attempt

[maniktwin]

Hi there,

My name is Rachel, I've been helped quite a bit by reading the forums here, thank you for all the insightful posts.

About 11 days ago, my husband, who suffers from severe PTSD, made a serious attempt to take his life. He spent 3 days in a coma, and when he was physically out of the woods, was involuntarily committed. (5150--we live in CA)

It was very painful to see him in this situation. We have decent insurance, I'm unsure why the facility was so substandard, but I won't go there right now.

Yesterday my husband came home. I'm so glad I did some research before I picked him up. I had it in my mind that things would be somewhat rosy, I tend to do that. Anyway the article helped me to keep my expectations realistic and my hopes high.

Honestly, it's quite depressing seeing him lying on the couch, and constantly talking about worst case scenarios and catastrophizing. Also, the snapping at me constantly is hurting my feelings although I am aware that it's not entirely personal. I love my husband, and I do treat him kindly. Sometimes I feel like I don't have a husband, or that he just loathes me.

Sorry to be so negative, I will definitely write positive posts when I'm there.

Thanks for reading!

Rachel

 

[Nicolette]

Sorry to hear about what you have been through Rachel. I can only imagine how terrifying something like that would be. I know Amethist has dealt with this type of situation but I have not. I also know little of the American system.

I hope you don't mind that I change your title as, based on it being "Just Saying Hello" I came to it thinking it had been posted in the wrong section.

 

[maniktwin]

Thank you Nicolette,

I've been helped my many of your posts.

Please change the title, I'd be most grateful. I'm not great at forums--I'll be more mindful here on out!

You and your husband deserve many thanks for this great forum. It's really been helping me pull through this.

I will write to Amethist. She is a sweetheart.

Thank you again,
Rachel

 

[Froggie]

Sorry to be so negative, I will definitely write positive posts when I'm there.

Hello Rachel. You're not being negative, you are venting out, that is sooooo necessary to do in order to keep sane in the situation you're finding yourself in right now. It can be so hard to deal with a suicidal person. Linking arms with you.

 

[amethist]

Hi Rachel

As Nicolette already mentioned, I have been in the situation of having to deal with a suicidal sufferer, unfortunately I had to do this on my own as no one at that time was willing to help me. I am in the UK, not sure if that makes any difference to what help is available.

It is not something that should be done without training, knowledge and experience, but as we all know supporters of a sufferer have so much thrown at us because of PTSD, which have no choice but to deal with.

You are very welcome to ask me anything, if I can pass on anything I have had to learn you as any one else, is welcome to it all.

Amethist.

 

[wife of]

Living the same pain here hunny,been on an endless cycle of getting him through the days and nights for six months now. Try to live in the moment and not think ahead, any progress will be in tiny increments and each one is a blessing.

 

[Magdalene]

Hello Rachel,

I am sorry to read what has happened for your and your husband of late. I was married to a man with lots of suicidal ideation and I can imagine a bit of the pain you are going through. I hope counseling and medication can bring some relief. It is really cool that you opened up about this instead of suffering alone. Is he still 'in the system?' Does he have a treatment plan? Is he following it and are you hopeful about it?

Hugs to you and him.

 

[Magdalene]

Thinking of you, Rachel. How are you doing?