Research Did Your Ptsd Sufferer Come Back After Their Bail Out? Tell Your Story Please

[EveHarrington]

Did you set it up like------


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(Please copy/paste this questionnaire and answer each question.)



You kind of have to format it and spell it out for people. I don't recall any of your posts actually setting up a questionnaire in this fashion.

 

[Deleted member 17302]

Did you set it up like----

Yes.

 

[mary1979]

Not exactly sure why you assume every sufferer 'bails out'.

I never bailed once physically.
Emotionally, all the time.

My abandonment issues cause me not to trust yes, and to pull back yes.
Leave though? No way, why would I leave when him leaving me is my biggest fear.

 

[Deleted member 17302]

Not exactly sure why you assume every sufferer 'bails out'.

YOU assumed I assume that.

No way, why would I leave when him leaving me is my biggest fear.

Not saying you do it. However my lady left for that reason. She said she had to leave before I would eventually leave her. Many others have said the same things on here. You are you, not anyone else.

 

[EveHarrington]

Well maybe the data you're looking for just isn't here-----I mean I see variations of a similar question posted about once a week. I think many supporters leave when things are good so a question like this will likely get few answers from supporters, many of which are skewed in one direction. People tend to be ---here--- when things are bad. Sufferers can't escape PTSD so we tend to be a bit more consistent in forum usage because it's something we'll always have to deal with. Supporters have the option of leaving or even taking voluntary breaks from PTSD and many do. These are just my observations----as I see you trying to get representative data from a population that simply cannot give you representative data. I understand you're trying to make heads or tails of it all and you're looking for something that will indicate that your loved one will come back----but the truth is that all of the data in the world won't tell you what your particular sufferer will do. So called statistics may bring you comfort but they won't give you an accurate answer.

 

[Deleted member 17302]

Well maybe the data you're looking for just isn't here-----I mean I see variations of a similar qu...

You are missing the point entirely and your assumptions continue to be just assumptions that only prove to be argumentative and contrarian in nature with no actual benefit at all to the conversation. This will be the last I reply to you in this thread.

 

[Sandstone]

the statistical view of these relationships

There is no statistical view, because there is not a "these" relationships. There are as many permutations as there are individuals. There are sufferers who act rationally in terms of their relationships, others who don't, and many who vary between different degrees of the two. there are supporters who don't deserve the name, and others who are wonders of insight and wisdom, and many who vary between different degrees of the two.

They are relationships, between people, some work, some don't.

 

[Deleted member 17302]

There is no statistical view, because there is not a "these" relationships. There are as many permutations as there are individuals.

You have misinterpreted the concept all together. Just ignore my account and stop replying to anything I post please.

 

[EveHarrington]

Actually I am seeing a very clear picture of this thread----

It seems like you only want to see what you want to see. You're looking for people who will back up your view of the world and you are dismissive of people who give you an alternative point of view. (Not just me----it happens repeatedly in your threads, repeatedly in this thread, too.) It's practically impossible for true healing to flourish in this type of environment.

People are trying to help you but you're unwilling to entertain the notion of other viewpoints having validity. I can't help but imagine this dynamic in your relationship and if so, I question whether you actually want to support your former partner or if you just want things the way that you want them, the status of your former relationship reinstated, your old partner back as she was pre-trauma, and so on.

I urge you to work on becoming more flexible. You may dismiss me but I don't believe a PTSD relationship can exist in an inflexible environment. Flexibility is more or less the name of the game.

 

[scout86]

I don't believe a PTSD relationship can exist in an inflexible environment

I'm not sure that any healthy relationship can. (That's probably off topic, I suppose.)

 

[EveHarrington]

@scout86

You're quite right! Every healthy relationship needs flexibility.

 

[joeylittle]

The OP has been clear about their desire to stay on-topic, here. Since we are in Studies and Research, I think it's appropriate to honor that request.

@mr_smith_v2 - as administrator, watching this thread, I only have one suggestion - and I'm offering it in support. Feel free to ignore it, and you don't owe me a response.

There is an odd specificity to 'bail out' that might automatically discount a section of your target audience. If I didn't envision my sufferer jumping ship, but thought of them as 'needing space', 'taking a break', - then, I'd assume you didn't want to hear from me. I could suggest something like 'isolation period', or 'said they needed to leave'...it might garner more responses from more supporters.

Others reading the thread - that's not an invitation to an off-topic conversation. @mr_smith_v2 can take it or leave it. Thanks.