Dissociation And Consent

[wotevz]

Not sure how to start with this. I have a history of both sexual abuse as a child and domestic abuse as an adult. I am out of that relationship now and have been a while. I'm trying to work through some of the issues that happened with my ex. I tend to dissociate (not DID) when it comes to sex. I seem to be incapable of saying no, even though it wasn't something I wanted, but I just switch off to what was happening, I suppose in the same way as I did as a child. So am I effectively giving consent by not saying no and dissociating instead?

 

[Unen]

I've often wondered this myself. I learned very young to just not bother saying No. It was just easier to let them do what they needed to do while I didn't pay attention and went away. The few times I did say No it didn't matter. The did it anyway. At least if I don't say No I can pretend I'm in control.