Do Normal Fathers Or Families Exist?

[Ladyghosthunter]

I have absolutely NO support system whatsoever and all I have is myself and my ghosts and cats. Now that I know that I'm going to be losing my job even though I have a whistleblower status on them (part and parcel to retaliation), I have to go look for another job as soon as possible, even if it is temporary.
I hate not having a job but at least I can pay for my meds through Medicare and get the help I need for this continuing through. I don't know how to do this...how am I going to make it through. I just don't know. I just don't know....

 

[Lucycat]

[ What I was trying to say here was that this girl loves her father more than her mother despite the fact her mother also loves her}

In your first post you say she *misses* her father. I took this to mean that he had died. Therefore which one you might 'love' more than the other can be entirely skewed.

edited to add - sorry the quotation has gone wrong. I hope my changes make it comprehensible.

 

[Hashi]

What I was trying to say here was that this girl loves her father more than her mother despite the fact her mother also loves her. What I was trying to say was that "how can someone love their father a lot more?" I can never like my father after what he had done. I only love my mother.

What you feel, based on your circumstances is very valid.

Other people will feel differently, based on their circumstances. I don't really understand why you're questioning this. Your original question boils down to whether someone else could feel differently to you. Well, I do for one because I could never love my mother and apparently you love yours. The person you've been writing about seems to feel differently. Probably there are lots of people who do.

I'm going to be honest and say I think there's a risk that focussing on ideas like this is a distraction from working on recovery. As such there's a risk of getting stuck in validating what happened to you. I'm all for validation, as long as there's some work on healing and recovery there too. Could I ask, are you working on recovery? I probably haven't seen all of your posts but the ones I've read seem to look backwards at the trauma. I'm very ready to be corrected that you're working on healing too.