Does anyone else have people give you sh** about your disability

[OpenForSuggestions]

I run into people in my neighborhood and out at different places who act like they're being all friendly. But then they feel free to say snarky veiled sh** about my situation. In the first place, what business is it of theirs. In the second place, they have their own sh** going on that I could comment about but don't. Because who wants to intentionally be a complete a-hole.

Seriously, how insecure are these ppl?! Sorry, feeling like a rant.

Who sees a veteran coming back from war in a wheelchair and runs up to say "Hahaha, you can't walk"?

Yet they feel perfectly free to do pretty much the same thing if it's mental/emotional injury you're trying to heal from. Not being able to work, at least in the conventional sense, and having to push yourself to go out and do things, ppl throw up additional barriers and obstacles everywhere you go, making it harder to get well.

It's pretty much seen as "you're just being lazy" or "you're just sensitive" or "you're a person who looks perfectly well and is just deciding to be a bum because, you know, living that way makes your life so much easier". It's like public shaming for having ptsd (which I'm not willing to let anyone know I have, because then they'll be even more of an a-hole, they'll just have more accurate information to do it with).

 

[joeylittle]

they feel free to say snarky veiled sh** about my situation.

"Snarky" and "veiled" - that stuff is very open to interpretation.

Is there a possibility you're reading things as insults, when they aren't meant to be?

 

[Ronin]

Who sees a veteran coming back from war in a wheelchair and runs up to say "Hahaha, you can't walk"?

... Lots of assholes, actually.

Seriously, reactions of others may not really have a bearing on your day to day life, nor can you change them.

Sure, you heard their words, and then what? Just because someone is rude about something doesnt mean it targets you, concretely.

 

[OpenForSuggestions]

Yes, I'm definitely in an over-reactive mood.

But, just because you're paranoid, doesn't mean ppl aren't out to get you ;)

 

[RVA21]

I run into people in my neighborhood and out at different places who act like they're being all friendly. But then they feel free to say snarky veiled sh** about my situation. In the first place, what business is it of theirs. In the second place, they have their own sh** going on that I could comment about but don't. Because who wants to intentionally be a complete a-hole.

Seriously, how insecure are these ppl?! Sorry, feeling like a rant.

Who sees a veteran coming back from war in a wheelchair and runs up to say "Hahaha, you can't walk"?

Yet they feel perfectly free to do pretty much the same thing if it's mental/emotional injury you're trying to heal from. Not being able to work, at least in the conventional sense, and having to push yourself to go out and do things, ppl throw up additional barriers and obstacles everywhere you go, making it harder to get well.

It's pretty much seen as "you're just being lazy" or "you're just sensitive" or "you're a person who looks perfectly well and is just deciding to be a bum because, you know, living that way makes your life so much easier". It's like public shaming for having ptsd (which I'm not willing to let anyone know I have, because then they'll be even more of an a-hole, they'll just have more accurate information to do it with).

Yes I hear you, they do think we're lazy. I went through years and years of my life worrying what others would think of me, in the end, if I found out they were being ***** behind my back, I cut them all out of my life. It's hard to find decent people who care and understand these days. They do exist. I have at least one great friend who I know from online who totally gets it, and I'm so lucky to be her friend. I hope you can find at least one like that who supports you and gets you and doesn't judge you. And yeah, remember those who judge are insecure and usually scared little cowards under it all ;)