General Does Anyone Other Supporters Not Post Because....

[amethist]

I just wondered if anyone else did not post sometimes, because it is like a stuck record, the same stuff round and round again.

Last weekend hubby was not good and spent most of it in bed, this weekend has almost been the same.

He has pushed himself again this week, doing more and more, as well as his adrenaline levels going up. I could see that, even if he couldn't and I did try and explain to him that some how he had to bring them back down or he would crash, which he has.

It's the same old, same old on repeat. Crash, recover, do too much, crash.

I just wish he could see it as I do.

So I don't always post as it is just repeating myself from last week.

 

[madmax]

Amethist,

I spent 4 years inside my house most of it in my bed. I read watched t.v. and slept with the help of meds.

How long has your husband had PTSD? Does he work?

Max

 

[Muzikluvr]

Yes, Amethist. There are many times when I find myself responding to people's posts and in the end realize that I am repeating myself yet again. My diary repeats too. Some traumas are discussed more than once, but mostly the process of accepting my family's choices repeats.

I think that part of recovery is pushing myself out of comfort zones and into situations that I would otherwise be afraid of, especially social situations because it is so important to feel connected to others. I think sometimes I fall over afterward because I pushed myself too far, but sometimes I fall over because I have PTSD... I need to plan for falling over afterward. Expect it. However, when opportunities present themselves during recuperation, I often don't want to miss out because of PTSD. So, I go anyway... and then fall over harder.

I don't see how that's going to stop, unless I get so much faster at recovering from social interactions that I barely notice that I fell over. That's not... uh... likely to happen, though.

I think your husband has to accept that he must plan for recuperation, and you need to accept that sometimes missing out will cause him more damage. If I miss something important to me because of PTSD, I might just feel like life isn't worth living... depending on what I'm missing and how that will change the way people treat me in future.

Either way, the cycle will not end. It is part of PTSD. We fall over, for one reason or another. Expecting it helps me accept it and move on quicker, but sometimes that's just not enough to make up for the disappointment that accompanies the confrontation with my limitations.

Wishing you the best,
Muz

 

[Deleted member 1860]

I think that posting is therapeutic so if you become repetitive, then so be it. It's always good to get more feedback. If you are afraid that a topic is just too repetitive for a new thread, would you feel better just posting it in a diary as a way of letting it out?

I know it's taken me awhile to identify these recovery (crash) patterns. I have a weekly schedule that helps me out. Monday/Tuesday I have class so wednesday is a recovery day. Then I schedule things later in the week so that Sunday is also a recovery day before classes the next two days. I needed a schedule of som sort before I could identify my need to have these recovery periods.

 

[amethist]

Thanks everyone.

I have a diary SOL, I was just wondering if other Supporters felt as I did sometime's, repeating them selves over and over again with the same issues that their sufferers have. I should have said "Supporters" in my title originally, I have fixed that now, but thanks for the input anyway.

How long has your husband had PTSD?
Does he work?

He was diagnosed about 5 years ago madmax, and no he does not work as he is too unstable for that. He now has a garage though and is building up to start his own bike repair, service restoration business. A dream he has had for years.

I think your husband has to accept that he must plan for recuperation, and you need to accept that sometimes missing out will cause him more damage.

He is working on a plan for times like this Muzikluvr, I except and understand most of it a lot better then he does. Just have to get him on the same page of the book as me.

 

[Deleted member 1860]

Oh, Sorry. I think I post too much over here so I'll just mostly read from now on.

 

[amethist]

No worries SOL, as I said thanks for your input, you did post some valid points.

 

[Nicolette]

I just wondered if anyone else did not post sometimes, because it is like a stuck record, the same stuff round and round again.

Definitely. I now only post if I emotionally crack from it and, for the better part, I don't anymore. Saying that, we were having a discussion this morning how PTSD, despite management, is still somewhat cyclic. The longer the 'good period' the deeper they fall back I see, maybe not as severe but it takes longer to recover.

A bit off topic but Anthony said something this morning that really hit home with me..... that sometimes he just has to give in to the PTSD (it never goes away) as it is less tiresome than fighting it - like having a rest (while not the best option, the only other one).

 

[Pencil]

Nicolette, thanks for you post - it is giving me hope. I've been beating myself up for feeling terribly down after a week of pushing myself.

 

[nursenurse]

I don't post too much about my situation because right now, nothing is changing due to the fact that I am away for several weeks out in the middle of nowhere. However, I read, read, read the forums, and soak up as much information as I can. I try to post on both supporters' and sufferers' threads, when I think I have something valid to say. With very few exceptions, i have found the sufferers to be quite receptive and reflective of almost anything I have had to say, and it is a true pleasure to encourage people along who are trying so hard to have a normal life, however we want to define that. The struggles, the ups and the downs are all a part and parcel of life, and for them to share their souls here is to be commended.

However, I am finding myself frustrated with some of the supporters who come for help, and refuse to acknowledge the wisdom of those who have gone before them. I am not speaking of what I offer, per se, but of the wisdom of those supporters and sufferers who are long standing members of this forum and know their asses from a hole in the ground, as my Ma would say. And so I skip over and don't post. Much :)

I guess everyone learns at their own pace, but kudos to those sufferers and supporters who have exhibited grace, wisdom, and the patience of Job.

 

[Nicolette]

Sometimes I don't post as I don't want to be disrespectful or embarrass hubby by 'complaining' as he is here too.

 

[Bilby]

Ditto, Nicolette.