Relationship Don't give up

[RN_Loving_A_Vet]

To hope is to have faith. Faith in things out of your control. Faith in the unknown. Faith that things will work out. This situation has tested my faith, my hope, my patience. Often I feel as though I am failing. Why? Because I still cry. I've cried talking to him because there are moments when I just cannot bottle it up any longer. We talk every day. Though things are still very tense, love is every day expressed. In a moment of fear, he saved me. He showed up. No questions asked. Just to be with me so I was not alone. That little glimmer of hope is there. Overshadowed at times by fear and doubt, it is there. And last night, he said "please don't give up". How could I possibly give up when I love this man with all of my heart. And though I refuse to give up, there are moments when I feel like giving in. Does anyone else struggle in this way? Kind of a silly question because I am certain we all have, supporters and sufferers alike.

I want to say to each and every single one of you who reads this, whether a supporter or sufferer, don't ever give up. Not on yourself, not on the ones you love. It isn't easy. It won't be easy. But don't give up.

 

[Snowflakes]

Does anyone else struggle in this way?

Yes I did for a very long time. Although many times I wanted to give up, I couldn’t do it. What ended up working for me was “letting go.” In my mind, giving up and letting go are not the same things. I never gave up on my sufferer but I did let go what her PTSD was doing to me. That was what finally helped me climb out of the rabbit hole.

 

[OrangeJulius]

What ended up working for me was “letting go.”

THIS! I call it "disconnecting". After going through isolation a few times I've learned that a)he will eventually "come back" to me b)the sooner I disconnect from him and do my own thing the easier it will be for me.

But yes....every isolation period I have all those thoughts. It feels like it will never end. His last isolation period I had to make an excuse to leave the room to cry because he laughed and I hadn't heard him laugh in weeks.