Don't Take This The Wrong Way, But I Don't Want To Fit In Here.

[ronin47]

Oh come on, don't you like acknowledging the fact you have a mental illness?

That was sarcasm in case you missed it. It was hard on me when I was first diagnosed to. Look at it this way, if you have a clear diagnosis, it makes it easier for you to seek treatment because it encapsulates your symptoms.

 

[Jaybird3939]

For me, the physical things, from hugging to sex, came down to the fear that someone else may be able to control me. I also cannot stand people in my physical space, or people that I don't know well hugging me or assuming a closeness that doesn't exist. It's all over the top self protection, but I've been doing it for so long, it's ingrained. Burke, I'm glad you're working on this before it becomes habit, like mine.
Janine

 

[Michele Janes]

For me, the physical things, from hugging to sex, came down to the fear that someone else may be able to control me. I also cannot stand people in my physical space, or people that I don't know well hugging me or assuming a closeness that doesn't exist. It's all over the top self protection, but I've been doing it for so long, it's ingrained. Burke, I'm glad you're working on this before it becomes habit, like mine.
Janine

This is something I really struggle with. I become extremely uncomfortable when someone I don't know that well or don't feel close to, finds a reason to touch me. I'm instantly suspicious and feel threatened. Not to mention that I often times will have a startle response once I am touched, even if I know the touch is coming. :eek:

 

[maddog]

Geez, unsolicited touching is one of my greatest and most reliable triggers. Even if I know or sense it coming, there is something in the action of a stranger, or even an unwelcome acquaintance, getting into my personal space (which is probably larger than most peoples' to begin with) and/or touching me without permission, that can send me almost instantly into a frenzy of rage... which is a very thin shield over enormous barely contained terror. Thankfully, or regrettably, depending on how you look at it, the rage and aggression is usually what is visible to the world and the terror and revulsion are my private experience only, but the results can be horrible. Honestly, this is one of the most routinely stressful and distressing things that happens in my day, because without going into lots of detail, I have a disability which, for reasons known only to some higher power it would seem, seems to give others the impression I am public property and can be touched, manipulated and manhandled at will.

Ok, too triggering, and probably should be another thread if I want to bang on about it anyway.

Maddog

 

[ms spock]

A T-Shirt Maddog,

"I may have Blah Blah, But I don't need you touching me.

Thank you for respecting my personal space."

Just a thought
ms spock

 

[Burke]

It is actually easier for me to handle when a stranger touches/hugs me than it is for my husband or a close family member, except for my children. I never feel uncomfortable with my children. My job requires me to meet and greet new people often. Everybody shakes hands/hugs and I am just used to it. I will say that in that moment, it is a tiny bit weird, but it is not a trigger.

However, I can't get past the fear of emotional attachment with my husband. It was not always like this. I wish it wasn't like this. I tried just sucking it up and ignoring these feelings for quite awhile, but that just caused resentment to build. He is very supportive of me and it makes me sad that I can't just make myself do it.

 

[LoyalOne]

I strongly dislike being touched. I have stopped automatically smacking the person's hand away, though. My husband will rescure me from close talkers if he sees me getting nervous. He is my ♥ like that.