EMDR - Disclosure vs Blind To Therapist

[unbrokenwarrior]

Hi, I'm looking for some advice from anyone who's done emdr, for those who are unsure blind to therapist is basically doing emdr without telling your therapist the details of what you're processing. So my questions are...

1) Has anyone started with blind to therapist and then disclosed and if so did you find that talking about the details helped with your therapy?

2) For those who struggle with talking in therapy how did you disclose? Writing it? Talking etc

I'd love to hear from anyone who's done emdr whether it was with full disclosure or not.

Thank you❣

 

[Rumors]

Mine had the theme but not gross details... I did divulge some of them after I did emdr. I talked it out in a generic kind of way using words and explanations I felt comfortable with. I feared that she would not be ok after hearing it. She was... I survived. It wasn't easy and I struggled before I got better.
Happy to answer what I can if it helps you. EMDR is hard but a worthwhile endeavor. It helps rid you of that shame you carry that prevents you from talking about it.

 

[unbrokenwarrior]

Thank you for replying @Rumors I've been doing emdr with her for nearly a year now and nothing has improved. We are still working on the first worst memory from the first traumatic event, the PC is still at 0, she feels I may be stuck and asked today if maybe sharing would help her know what I need help with. She said I could do it blind theres no problem with that but it got me thinking maybe I'm not processing further because I'm not voicing anything with her in a sense she doesnt know what I'm stuck with. We only have 6 months left and I want things to move forward I have more trauma I need to process so I thought maybe this would help me progress.

 

[Rumors]

Maybe so... try writing it first and then let her read it ??? Then you probably need to say it out loud.

 

[Missycat]

I really struggled to verbally share my trauma with my T so did do emdr ‘blind’ initially. I was able to give the ‘theme’ but that was all. I found emailing T helped as she then understood what i was processing and could ask questions etc if needed. It did get easier but i still struggle at times.

 

[Skywatcher]

1. Never detailed. Just basic info around the trauma, but before doing emdr she seems to have an interesting way via our conversations to get me to that uncomfortable place before “going in.”

Did blind once. Something so shameful that I really couldn’t say it out loud. Months later I wrote it out and shared it with her.

2. I write, draw pictures, write poems. Sent her a music file once. She wrote back and told me that she listened to the symphony I sent her while writing her notes. It’s so sad and powerful. I had explained in great detail how the melodic lines and layers represented the moments after my rape and my emotions involved. I felt saddened and respected that she took the time to listen to it.