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Ex Girlfriend Help

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Ducky

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Hey Guys

First time posting so hope this is in the right section.

Things have been going great for me recently until a few weeks ago when a few different things kicked off. Now the one that is annoying me the most would be that my ex girlfriend has blocked me on facebook. I haven’t had any contact with her in nearly a year and when I found out its been the most outstanding thing that’s annoyed me. Why? I’ve no idea and im hoping somebody here can shed some light on the matter.

Im 27 and when I was 18 I got together with my first proper girlfriend. Now she had a young child and while we were together the child started calling me daddy and I grew to see the child as my son. Long story short her ex boyfriend came back on the scene, he started torturing her, I ended up given him a bad beating and then he set her house on fire with the intention of killing him inside the house. He went to jail and we split up over a stupid fight and that was that although I was devastated. Found out months later that she had gotten back with him and now has 4 kids to him.

So fast forward to when I was 26. I had been out one night and was with a new girlfriend and she had seen me. I later found out she had run out crying and immediately split with her boyfriend, the arsonist. Few months later she had went out with the intention of telling me how she felt about me which was that she loved me, always had and always would. That she would luv to give us another try. Now I knew that deep down it was no but I kept in contact with her and old feelings started re-emerging even though I knew that nothing would come of it as there was no way I was going to raise 4 kids that weren’t mine and deep down still hated her. So long story short I couldn’t trust her and was just using her for sex more or less or at least I think I was. Long story short as I didn’t trust her again we had a stupid fight and she got back with her ex in time for Christmas. Now it literally didn’t bother me in the slightest as at the time due to me being over sexed she was one of multiple partners that I had at the time and I ended up meeting my current partner who ive now been with a year and im pretty sure I love if not I have really deep feelings for.

So my question is why is this annoying me so much? Am I being that petty that I want her to be annoyed and hurt every time she would see me comment on a mutual friends facebook page?

I realise that this post might not have painted me in a very good light but without going into my whole life story and detailing why im an emotional shell I guess I will just have to deal with any criticisms

Thanks

Ducky

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Welcome to the forum Ducky.

Well in my opinion it sounds like she is a jealous type. And sure sounds like she needs to see a therapist to help her deal her past.

Are you seeing a therapist?
 
Thank you Sandra

Im currently not seeing a therapist although I have seen one in the past year and a half for about twenty sessions. It cost me a small fortune though and to be honest I ended it because I thought that I had gotten as far as I would with therapy
 
I can relate to this as well although just on being blocked on facebook part which I really didn't like at all. I've had to painstakingly do some research like the ones on this site darktips. com/how-to-tell-who-blocked-people-you-me-on-facebook just to find out why was I blocked in the first place. The clouds in my relationship with my ex just cleared up once she talked to me outside facebook and I finally got my closure.
 
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