Family and the holidays

[FauxLiz]

I really wish that limited contact, being to sick for the birthday but recovering for Christmas, my kids doing the holidays with me or the day after were even feasible options. I have limited my contact with these people by moving 1200+ miles away from them so the expectation of frequent visits doesn't exist. I have used work, distance, illness etc all as excuses in the past but this year with the "milestone" birthday and subsequent holiday makes even shortening the visit difficult. I will be traveling all day the 21st have now been conscripted into duty to bake and decorate for the event. Get through all the fake happiness and togetherness on the 23rd then since they know my work is closed Mon and Tues can't leave so that means I will be there from late on the 21st until the 26th at the earliest. I had hoped I would be strong enough to get through it this year but I just feel as by the time I leave I will be a major basket case with little support to pull me out.

 

[nomorefear]

Have you ever heard of the book Boundaries by Dr. Henry Cloud? It was very helpful to me in dealing with my family and setting boundaries. I always felt like I didn't have a voice, like no one saw ME. I have learned a lot and don't allow my family to manipulate me and my emotions anymore.