How you are doing in this area ? In the past I had some relationships but I'm still confuse.
I had a female colleague and I am not sure if she flirted with me or not. She has a boyfriend. She behaved in a way that suggested me that she maybe had, and many other colleagues told me that there is something and I should do something with it. But I always doubt, I am very dubious, as usual. I have serious trust issues, you know, c-ptsd and acoa symptoms. I mostly (not everytime) behaved formally, distant maybe, and she seemed a little confused and pissed off. Despite my distance I think I gave her some signals about my interest. She always tried smile at me (it wasn’t the only signal) in a way as she wanted me to smile at her too. As if she insist. And I stopped that because I did not believe her. She gave me then some mixed signals, push/pull. I guess I gave it to her too.
Well, we can not see each other anymore, we have not seen each other for several months. I do not work there anymore. So I sent her a message on fb. She did not write me. She ignore me.
But it is just an example. I have others. Examples of much more obviously flirtatious women and I still didn't respond. Or when I respond in one of those cases, she was older woman, some milf, she was pissed off, like what the hell I want from her. When I meet some girl who show some interested in me I just act like I don't care. Because I don't trust her. I don't trust anybody. I believe sometimes they use me only for ego boosting, use and discard. Or in many other times I guess I succumb to my illusion, I see what I want.
What should I do. Should I write again to that colleague ? Are these BIG trust issues so common among us ? I mean I have really big trust issues and I am very isolated.
What are your experiences ? How do you cope with it ?
I had a female colleague and I am not sure if she flirted with me or not. She has a boyfriend. She behaved in a way that suggested me that she maybe had, and many other colleagues told me that there is something and I should do something with it. But I always doubt, I am very dubious, as usual. I have serious trust issues, you know, c-ptsd and acoa symptoms. I mostly (not everytime) behaved formally, distant maybe, and she seemed a little confused and pissed off. Despite my distance I think I gave her some signals about my interest. She always tried smile at me (it wasn’t the only signal) in a way as she wanted me to smile at her too. As if she insist. And I stopped that because I did not believe her. She gave me then some mixed signals, push/pull. I guess I gave it to her too.
Well, we can not see each other anymore, we have not seen each other for several months. I do not work there anymore. So I sent her a message on fb. She did not write me. She ignore me.
But it is just an example. I have others. Examples of much more obviously flirtatious women and I still didn't respond. Or when I respond in one of those cases, she was older woman, some milf, she was pissed off, like what the hell I want from her. When I meet some girl who show some interested in me I just act like I don't care. Because I don't trust her. I don't trust anybody. I believe sometimes they use me only for ego boosting, use and discard. Or in many other times I guess I succumb to my illusion, I see what I want.
What should I do. Should I write again to that colleague ? Are these BIG trust issues so common among us ? I mean I have really big trust issues and I am very isolated.
What are your experiences ? How do you cope with it ?
