From Bad To Worse

[digger]

Have you tried a non dairy formula?

 

[Casey_03]

No, they only have two different types here that I've been able to find. I'm hoping the doctor will have suggestions. But he was the same way with breast milk when I was on a very strict diet with no dairy and nothing that could upset his tummy (oatmeal, potatoes, tasteless things ...)

 

[ghotiff]

I've got nothing constructive to say. You need a break. I'm not sure how you can get one, but you need one.

One thing that helped me (but it sounds really wrong) was that I tried to get the best crying photo I could. It gave me a break by changing my perspective for a few minutes.

I've met parents whose baby screams and it doesn't bother them. I found it agony. Maybe when you describe it to this next Doctor you describe what it does to you. There are hospitals in Australia which help parents with baby sleep issues and they include night stay visits which help the parents sleep and thus calm down, which helps the baby calm down.

 

[Casey_03]

@ghotiff I've considered hiring a nanny for the night and going to stay in a hotel to get a full night's rest, but I wouldn't trust a nanny this early on, at least not to be with him all night. There was one night so far that I managed to get about five hours of sleep, and it made a HUGE difference in my mood and ability to cope with the baby's fits the next day. So I know I really just need sleep. But how to get it? I don't know. I wish I had some family members nearby who I could trust. To think, it's only been two weeks .... there's a long road ahead

 

[Tinyflame]

Off chance, have you tried a tepid (lukewarm-to-cool) bath? The crying may be increasing gas also.

It's the thought it will never end that's unbearble too, but it will. :hug:

 

[ladee]

@Casey_03 , he is apparently getting too much air when he nurses... either formula or breast milk... Can you feed him a little, burp him, feed him a little more, burp him... not let him get a full tummy before he burps....and then extra air when he is crying. How does he do when laying on your stomach?
I know you are exhausted... maybe you could hire the nanny and stay there.. I know it would wake you up, but you would know you could go back to sleep...Bring them in and see how they do with his crying...then you would know how it would be if he woke you up. A bunch of moms here totally understand and wishing we were there to help... And read the other post about Daddy Dearest... please, wait until you have had some rest... you already know the answer but are too exhausted to deal with this right now... You have enough on your plate without having that asshole to deal with.... Try that tho. feeding him a little, then burping... God I wish we could come up with something that helps you both.... if he is already gassy, don't feed him anymore... they will mimic wanting a bottle or the breast when crying like that... Hope the Dr has something useful for you tomorrow.. I know there was some kind of medicine I would put in a little bit of sterilized water for my son before I fed him... it really helped...
My heart is breaking for you and Little Man.

 

[digger]

considered hiring a nanny for the night

I would consider doing this anyway if it's an option financially. Not the going to a hotel part and leaving her to it, but just to have an extra person there to hold the baby for a bit, let you take some time out from being the sole carer for a bit. Even 'easy' babies are hard work. Sleep deprivation is no joke, especially when it's just you. Bring in that extra pair of hands for a bit xxx

 

[ghotiff]

I agree with digger.

Trust is earned, a nanny can't earn your trust without the chance. I don't know your trauma but maybe it's relevant to your lack of trust. Mine was childhood sexual abuse. Looking back I know it impacted my ability to trust people with my child. If I could have changed something I would have trusted others more and allowed them to help me more.

If the nanny can do all the physical work of the waking in circles, burping etc for a night (or day) ...you might not necessarily sleep but the having the rest from the physical work will make a big difference.

This is physically the most demanding parenting period and actually the best time to use outside help.

 

[Whyteferret]

My brother was allergic to milk and lactose intolerant.
Maybe that's why the little guy is so unhappy?
The docs can test for that
My brother had to eat a non-dairy product and moved to baby food pretty quickly.

I don't know much about infants though.

 

[NoWhereKnowWhere]

My nephew had a lot of trubble with his tummy the only thing that helped was filling the bath right up and having him in it. Seemed to force the wind up, poor little thing.

Me and my brother were both put on soya milk when we were young due to stomach problems. We both thrived on it.

I really feel for you and little one.

 

[Powder]

Does he fall asleep after eating? Hold him upright to let burps naturally escape without GERD/reflux. Some babies like to be 90 degrees at almost all times and even being at an angle of 45 will not do for them. Some like to be horizontal and feed lying next to you or the football hold.

One lady who was a baby expert said most babies need either vertical or horizontal to the person holding them and the floor and that's that. Find out which seems to make that baby happy and stick with it. Maybe use a baby carrier worn on the front in order to do dishes, etc.

Heck I had to cook with my daughter in a front pack. Talk about scary. I had to stand away from the stove and cook easy things. She was a "has to be upright" baby and so was my next one.

Babies have a weak esophagus and reflux is often an issue without food sensitivity. This reflux in an already "has to be upright" baby compounds the need to keep them upright and feed tiny meals frequently, like a max of 4 oz. every 2 hours. Seriously, feed them like a tiny bird. They have a delicate digestive system.

Yes, you need sleep. Poor you.

My first was the same.

The front pack was needed for a month, then the baby swing when she was older, allowed me to get basic food prep and wash done. I even had to sit and watch TV with her on my chest, upright.

I was very tired.

She also didn't want anyone else, not her dad, nobody. They can smell mom and that's all they want.

Most new mom's feel how you feel. It is not an easy right of passage. Nobody tells you how hard it was for them because they hope you will luck out and get an 'easy baby.'