General Guilt

[ForestMa]

I feel that it is partly my fault my husband is struggling. The military sent the guys with medical situations and heavily pregnant wives home first after the accident. I was only 30 weeks pregnant when it happened. The base prioritized him coming home. It led to him getting ripped out of the environment less than 12 hours after they docked. He had no decompression time. If I hadn't said anything maybe he would have been ok.

I'm trying to keep it together but the lack of affection is killing me. I miss getting a hug, or him holding me while I made supper. It was so insignificant when things were normal, but would mean the world now.

 

[Bim]

.... I don't see why it is your fault. Not even partly. Your being pregnant is good news as it is a blessing. He should be thankful he was given the chance to be there for you and the baby - as a family. Have you tried talking to him and make known that his behavior is bothering you?....
:)

 

[ForestMa]

I think it's confusing for him. He's happy to be home, but feels like he deserted his men. I'm afraid of being needy, I know I need to respect his boundries right now. I'm trying to find the line of his needs and mine. It's just been a rough few days. Plus Im extra sensitive due to the pregnancy hormones.

 

[Keith'sGirl]

Please talk to a therpist. They can help you with your emotions and help to see his side too. Let him know that you miss his "little things" :)