Other Haemolacria UPDATE: migraine, poisoning

[Ronin]

You're not defective.

You know how badass it is to be navigating so complicated NT world while a spectrum person? :D

That means you are bright as hell and creative. Not that you're defective. That you're talented. Awe inspiring, admirable thing to be.

You were abused and are because they are evil people.
Not because there is anything wrong with you.

Caring is not wrong.
You caring for nature, bugs and skies and rocks, is great. Worth respect.

Sounds you are pretty good at caring, too... How can you get care for you too, now? Because you should get care... you are a part of nature and life, a good and belonging and needing protected, part of the nature too.

And? Broken people need healing. Not go away. Stay and heal. Staying is okay. You're helping people by staying, too. It makes the nice people see you & everyone like you are good for who they are.

And?

I was told I'm a murderer when I was what, four, five, so much too.

It's lies. Doesn't make you one. They lie.

From the papers? Sounds you are surrounded by real murderers, though.

Don't let them have you too.
Don't let them make you silent too.

You doing self soothing things like stims or not talking because happy are good things. Silence now because scared so much is a different thing. They should not be making you silent. It is not right.

 

[Freida]

Ok. I'm gonna put my 911 hat on for a moment.
These things he is doing are WRONG. He has you believing them because he has programmed you to believe it.
It is NOT true.

I want you to call 911 and tell them this.......just like you have written it down here....

. And he said I don't get to wear clothes anymore.

If I don't do anything, maybe he'll kill me. I think that would be the very best thing.

hey want to hurt people like me. I'm not supposed to talk. I'm defective, and things like me are supposed to go away. He hurts me because I deserve it. I understand that now.

And this..... Make sure they know this ....

. That's why he had to get the gun. I made him do it because I'm a monster. He says so. I wish he'd killed me.

I'm not sure what happened the last time police came - but if you won't call 911 please call the domestic violence hotline .

What he is doing is wrong
You dont deserve any of this
Nothing about you makes it ok for him to do this
You do not have to live this way.

Please, please call

 

[Ronin]

(Ditto, Freida. My read on it was f*ck, point I'd call 'em SWAT in. Especially since family of felons perps, guns around, threats issued, poisoning, that up north hypothermia, and god f*cking knows how many other equally lethal things Angrboda's so bravely dealing with.

Totally rates being gotten out of there, fastest.

Hence asking you for eyes. Thanks a lot for responding! :D)

 

[joeylittle]

@Angrboda - you're clearly in a very bad situation. There's not much anyone here on the site can do except listen, and give advice.

but if you won't call 911 please call the Link Removed.

This is the best thing you can do for yourself. I know you said you've tried getting help before, and no-one would help. I want to strongly encourage you to keep trying. Someone will listen.

 

[Deanna]

If I don't do anything, maybe he'll kill me.
This is his brother:

Munt charged with first-degree murder

He has a gun. He showed me it was loaded and threatened to kill me and himself before. I told the police. They came with the ambulance when he poisoned himself because I tried to talk to him. They wouldn't do anything. They wouldn't even take him to psych for a few days. I told the woman from the crisis center about the gun, too. She wouldn't answer me. I'm afraid someone will die if I post this because bitches like me aren't supposed to talk to anyone. That's why he had to get the gun. I made him do it because I'm a monster. He says so. I wish he'd killed me.

You can also call the suicide hotline.

 

[Friday]

If I don't do anything, maybe he'll kill me.
This is his brother:

Munt charged with first-degree murder

He has a gun. He showed me it was loaded and threatened to kill me and himself before. I told the police. They came with the ambulance when he poisoned himself because I tried to talk to him. They wouldn't do anything. They wouldn't even take him to psych for a few days. I told the woman from the crisis center about the gun, too. She wouldn't answer me. I'm afraid someone will die if I post this because bitches like me aren't supposed to talk to anyone. That's why he had to get the gun. I made him do it because I'm a monster. He says so. I wish he'd killed me.

if your local services haven’t helped you, and that’s really his brother? You have a very simple solution... call THAT department, directly, and ask to speak to the detective on his brothers case. And ask for that detectives help, because your local police don’t believe you, but Det. So&So already knows his family, and knows they kill people who disobey them or try to leave. That Bro won’t let you wear clothes, or leave the house, and has a gun, and has drugged you, and hurt you, and threatened your life. And you need help from someone who knows what that family can do. No one believes you because you act weird, but the detective knows his brother, knows you’re not making up what’s happening.

Cops are human, they get invested in the cases they work, and they talk to each other. A homicide detective can’t/won’t usually step in, in a domestic violence case. Different departments, different jurisdictions, different authority. Cops out of their jurisdiction have almost as little authority to act as an average citizen. BUT they are taken seriously by other cops, and what they CAN do is make some phone calls, and clue your local department in that the family is known to police, one brother has already tortured and killed his girlfriend, and light a fire under their asses that there is real and immediate threat and you need help, right now.

Call the detective on his brothers homicide case. Ask for their help. Do what they say to do.

 

[Justmehere]

911 is an option even if you don’t have the courage to call it on him, you can tell them you are in a mental health crisis and get to an ER and start getting symptoms and injuries checked out and tell them there what’s going on and that you need help to be safe. My abuser was well known. I got out by calling 911 on myself. I couldn’t say it was him until I knew I could be safe from him. Once I got to the ER they called all the advocates to come right there to the ER and they took it very seriously because I was in the ER. Worst case senario, if they still don’t believe you, but you are clear you are unsafe at home, then they still can keep you, keep things confidential from him, and you get a few days away from him to stabilize physically.

If you are not willing to leave for good, try leaving for a day.

Another option, especially based on your description of lack of function, is to call adult protection services. They can help some adults with disabilities that can no longer manage their affairs on their own. I had a family member who could not function on their own that was in abuse and the police and others missed it but adult protection stepped in and solved it and got them supports they could access and financial help to survive away from the abuser.

 

[bellbird]

Just wanted to let you know that I'm thinking of you, @Angrboda .
Hoping that you are safe.

 

[Deanna]

Just wanted to let you know that I'm thinking of you, @Angrboda .
Hoping that you are safe.

It almost sounds like Angrboda has "stockholm sydrome". I bet I'm 93 percent correct.

 

[Friday]

It almost sounds like Angrboda has "stockholm sydrome". I bet I'm 93 percent correct.

Stockholm syndrome describes super brief relationships... think bank robbery, kidnap victim.

Battered Spouse Syndrome / Battered Person Syndrome (Intimate Partner Violence) is the one you’re looking for. It’s a far more complex, pervasive, and devastating series of issues

Both are types of trauma bonds, just different types/ different issues surrounding them, rather than disorders unto themselves.

 

[Deanna]

Stockholm syndrome describes super brief relationships... think bank robbery, kidnap victim.

Battered Spouse Syndrome / Battered Person Syndrome (Intimate Partner Violence) is the one you’re looking for. It’s a far more complex, pervasive, and devastating series of issues

Both are types of trauma bonds, just different types, rather than disorders unto themselves.

True. She has got some time vested in him ( or other way around). But she is brainwashed by this guy and is ready to literally die for. I'm thinking-WTF? She's brainwashed is all. Or maybe she's so traumatized, she doesn't care.

 

[Ronin]

@Deanna I don't think it's your place, nor accurate to reality, nor encouraging seeking help, to attempt to judgmentally armchair diagnose a member in a difficult situation.

Even less after you were veery gently told situations like Angrboda's are pretty damn complex, and outside of your understanding of dynamics involved in them.