Sufferer Hard growing up

[Soconfused7468]

Hello I’m new here but not even sure if I’m on the right site , I do suffer with acute anxiety and depression and I’m on quite a bit of medication won’t go into it all now as this is an introduction but I’m a 54 year old guy from England that was abused by my mother but not explicitly sexually but I was dressed in girls clothes along with brutal punishment which made me part laughing stock in front of family and friends and at school

 

[Riley Jones]

Welcome to myptsd.com! You've come to the right place for support and understanding. I'm sorry to hear about what you've been through. It sounds like you've experienced a great deal of pain and trauma. You can find solace here among individuals who have gone through similar experiences.

It's important to know that you're not alone. Many people on this forum have also experienced abuse and can relate to what you've been through. Sharing your experiences within this empathetic and compassionate community can provide validation and healing.

While we are not a substitute for professional help, we can offer support and encouragement along your healing journey. If you haven't already, I would strongly encourage you to seek help from a trauma-informed therapist or counselor. They can provide the specialized support and guidance you need.

In the meantime, feel free to explore the different forums on myptsd.com. There are specific areas where you can discuss topics related to PTSD, CPTSD, anxiety, and depression. You'll find a wide range of perspectives and insights that can help you on your path to recovery.

Remember to take things at your own pace and only engage in discussions that feel comfortable for you. The myptsd.com community is here to support you every step of the way. If you have any questions or need assistance, please don't hesitate to ask.

Take care,
Riley

 

[Sideways]

Welcome to the forum:)

 

[Soconfused7468]

Welcome to myptsd.com! You've come to the right place for support and understanding. I'm sorry to hear about what you've been through. It sounds like you've experienced a great deal of pain and trauma. You can find solace here among individuals who have gone through similar experiences.

It's important to know that you're not alone. Many people on this forum have also experienced abuse and can relate to what you've been through. Sharing your experiences within this empathetic and compassionate community can provide validation and healing.

While we are not a substitute for professional help, we can offer support and encouragement along your healing journey. If you haven't already, I would strongly encourage you to seek help from a trauma-informed therapist or counselor. They can provide the specialized support and guidance you need.

In the meantime, feel free to explore the different forums on myptsd.com. There are specific areas where you can discuss topics related to PTSD, CPTSD, anxiety, and depression. You'll find a wide range of perspectives and insights that can help you on your path to recovery.

Remember to take things at your own pace and only engage in discussions that feel comfortable for you. The myptsd.com community is here to support you every step of the way. If you have any questions or need assistance, please don't hesitate to ask.

Take care,
Riley

Hello Riley , thank you very much for your message,yes I’ve been through it but didn’t want to think my ordeal is trying to lessen in anyway real ptsd through wars etc but in my own way I struggle ,but I’m nit sure if min3 is ptsd

 

[Applecore]

Hello I’m new here but not even sure if I’m on the right site , I do suffer with acute anxiety and depression and I’m on quite a bit of medication won’t go into it all now as this is an introduction but I’m a 54 year old guy from England that was abused by my mother but not explicitly sexually but I was dressed in girls clothes along with brutal punishment which made me part laughing stock in front of family and friends and at school

Welcome. You are on the right site. You're among friends here mate. Many of us have been through it and many of us get a lot out of offering tips that might help others come through it as well.

Obviously, we all have our own stories behind us, which inform the particular take we might have on a situation. Some basic ones from me:

1) Does the medication include anything psychoactive, such as anti-depressants?

2) How is your alcohol, diet and physical exercise? Any recreational drugs?

3) How often do you get out into nature?

4) How about your work and social life?

5) Have you tried any form of counselling alongside the medication?

In my experience, this already covers a huge area that getting right can help us all.

 

[littleoc]

Glad you're here

 

[Soconfused7468]

Glad you're here

Thank you

 

[caroline_13]

I’ve been through it but didn’t want to think my ordeal is trying to lessen in anyway real ptsd through wars etc but in my own way I struggle ,but I’m nit sure if min3 is ptsd

I would caution against labeling your PTSD as "fake" or not "real" because it is not from a war. I too have struggled with this, in my opinion everyone's experience is unique. And not being able to talk about it or have it generally understood by the public can be a trauma in and of itself.

 

[Applecore]

I would caution against labeling your PTSD as "fake" or not "real" because it is not from a war. I too have struggled with this, in my opinion everyone's experience is unique. And not being able to talk about it or have it generally understood by the public can be a trauma in and of itself.

On this point, I'd add that I didn't know anything at all about PTSD, and had hardly even heard of it, until I had a one-time appraisal from an extremely qualified psychologist (he was not psychotherapist or psychiatrist) about 15 years ago. This man had treated war combat veterans. I've never been in a near-death experience or injured on the front line in a war zone (although my father was, and that's a related story).

In our conversation, I told the psychologist that I spent a huge amount of time regretting and thinking about the past, playing it over and over in my head to the point of involuntary, intrusive thoughts about my childhood and youth and bereavements, that even gave me headaches. That they sometimes felt like they were driving me crazy, and escapist fantasies of suicide were soothing. He said that it "sounds like PTSD" and then explained why. So, he was happy to use the term in a very broad sense.

I then read up about it, and discovered C-PTSD or "complex" PTSD sometimes a.k.a. developmental trauma, which seemed to fit my case more than say a combat veteran.

Then some years later I went for a psychotherapy initial consultancy session, and I told the woman what the psychologist had said, and what I had read, and came her reply: "Let's not over-pathologize it. PTSD has become very fashionable as a handy diagnosis, just like CBT has become a handy fix. It might not be PTSD that you have. It might be any number of other things. And CBT might not be the solution."

So, I gathered these three 'data points' on my self-help journey. I think they're all valid. Maybe something in that for you, too.

 

[Soconfused7468]

I would caution against labeling your PTSD as "fake" or not "real" because it is not from a war. I too have struggled with this, in my opinion everyone's experience is unique. And not being able to talk about it or have it generally understood by the public can be a trauma in and of itself.

Thanks Caroline didn’t mean to play down ptsd I just didn’t know if my experience covered it

 

[caroline_13]

Thanks Caroline didn’t mean to play down ptsd I just didn’t know if my experience covered it

Even if you don't have "PTSD," you have something. You are suffering. I'm not upset, just trying to help you be gentle with yourself.