Relationship Having a bad day

[Justmehere]

On some symptom surveys for dissociation, it will ask about if one has daydreamed a conversation and then not been sure if really happened or not. Check out question #15 on the DES scale here: http://traumadissociation.com/des

I think it’s pointing to experiences that happened but then feel foggy, but I’ve read of others having the experience where they mentally rehearsed a conversation and then thought it happened and I wonder if it’s related to PTSD and dissociation. I really don’t know on this one.

I’m not saying this is or is not what is happening for him... as it’s posisble he just made assumptions or forgot to tell you what he planned to do or goodness knows what.

 

[Freida]

wow -- #15 is totally me. but my overall score has come down!

 

[BoyfriendqwithPTSD]

Hi guys.

That happens to him quite often to be honest, him thinking we’ve had a conversation and in reality it didn’t happen.
Really interesting to read that it CAN be a part of PTSD. It’s quite awful how many things get affected :(


My partner (or ex partner) has an appointment tomorrow where he will have to create a timeline and re-live the events that led to trauma. I feel nervous and scared for him, I’m guessing he’s gonna feel awful tomorrow. He is strong though so I know he will get through it.

 

[BoyfriendqwithPTSD]

Anyone that can give a little insight of what to expect from his session tomorrow? Re-living events that lead to trauma..

 

[Sweetpea76]

I wouldn't expect to hear from him. He may need a lot of space to recover. It's going to be rough.

 

[Deanna]

Hi guys.

Hey. I got through three pages of this thread and HOLY COW! Too many emotions for me!
Seriously.. I'll give you a good one to chew on. So, I'm a sufferer and my boyfriend is/was a sufferer and I broke up with him.. People can use PTSD to get their way and be manipulative as well and everytime I talked with him, it was all about his ______ or his ______ or how was his _______________ or how he had accomplished _________. I don't care anymore for him really... but one thing I will always care about is he opened the door and I found my way to PTSD. * I could finally start healing after 50 years of not knowing I had it. I'm on medications that make me a lot better. Is your boyfriend taking medications? Yet?

 

[Freida]

I tell my supporters that ptsd counseling is sometimes like chemo for your soul. It's killing what is bad and then you have to heal. Not all of them - but alot.
I can get really bitchy after a session because you don't leave what you dug up at therapy. You bring it home with you and have to sort out how you feel about it. And - I sometimes come home from counseling and go straight to bed -- especially if it is an EMDR session.

 

[Sweetpea76]

@Freida when my vet was able to get therapy he'd get in the car afterwards and fall asleep before we'd left the parking lot. He slept his off too.

 

[Freida]

@Sweetpea76 It's so weird how that happens! I sometimes feel like my brain has been scooped out and replaced by cotton candy

 

[BoyfriendqwithPTSD]

Hes not having EMDR as far as I know. He is having trauma based CBT. Is EMDR any good?

 

[Snowflakes]

Hes not having EMDR as far as I know. He is having trauma based CBT. Is EMDR any good?[/QUOT...

They both have their place. It’s up to the therapist and your boyfriend to decide together the best course to take. Often the hardest thing for a supporter to do is to stay out of it.

My sufferer sees a therapist. I don’t know what they are doing or talking about but I do know that, unless she comes to me and volunteers to share, I don’t ask.

I have read from sufferers here that EMDR can be difficult for them but also helps them to heal. You might want to do a search here and read their stories that they have shared.

Take care of you.

 

[Freida]

Is EMDR any good?

define good! :)

EMDR is horrible, brutal, painful and one of the best things I've ever done. I think there is a whole write up on how it works around here somewhere but short story is that it changes how you think about traumas you have had. Especially when they are stuck, like in PTSD

when you have a trauma it goes into one part of your brain and if things go right it processes thru into long term memory. If things go wrong the memory gets stuck in present time with all the emotions - and you keep re experiencing them. EMDR helps you process the memories and let go of the emotions. I had it done for the first time years ago after a bad 911 call. When I walked into the therapists office I couldn't even say the woman's name or talk about what had happened to her. We did EMDR, I went thru the whole experience again and felt all the feelings. When the appointment was over I was able to talk about the entire call as something sad from the past that really didn't bother me anymore.

It really is amazing. But. Painful. Really really painful. both emotionally and physically.