Hello :) I'm new here please excuse my grammar English is not my first language:oops:..
I'm kinda in the same situation my boyfriend deployed to Afghanistan he came back a week ago after 9 months. While he was over there we were planning so much things that we wanted to do like going on little trips going out to dinner spending every day together and he was looking forward too to see my son we even talked about getting married. Everything was great except the last couple weeks before he got back, he got angry pretty quick over little things, the contact slowed down and he took and still takes everything personal, constantly feeling attacked but just when we text or talk on the phone never face to face.
On the day he got back everything was great we spent 2 days together he apologized for the way he acted towards me lately he told me he was stressed out over there. I understand him he was on plenty of missions out there and he was focused on coming back alive.. He's only here for 2 weeks because he going on leave for a couple weeks to visit his family and his daughter which isn't a big deal for me because I know he misses his family so much.
The thing that bothers me is we didn't do much together at all its like he can have fun with his friends and go out without even asking me if I want to join. I asked him lately if we want to spend the last couple days together before he's going on leave and he rather go out with his friends and said that it seems like that I wanna be all under him all day -->We only seen each other a few times. When we together he's great he treats me nice he isn't mean or angry at all and shows me love yada yada yada. I asked him why he is like that sometimes and he said he's happy with me its just his self sometimes he needs to be by himself sometimes he doesn't feel like doing things at all, doesn't want to see anybody, doesn't want to party, and has no fun in things that once made him happy.
He opened up to me and told me some things that he have seen and how its effected him and I'm sure that's a sign that he trust me: roll eyes:...I just don't understand how he can be all up on me one day and then act like this sometimes..we only have a few days left and it makes me kinda sad that he doesn't want to spend time with me but with his friends I never know when im going to see him again...
I don't know if I'm being selfish right now and overreacting:grumpy: oh and I don't call him at all and only text him when he does because I heard that being needy pushes people with PTSD away...i feel kinda lost right now :bag: every-time when things are great he needs space right after im gone its like he doesn't even bother to not see me before he's going on leave..I hope someone can help me out a bit :in love:
I'm kinda in the same situation my boyfriend deployed to Afghanistan he came back a week ago after 9 months. While he was over there we were planning so much things that we wanted to do like going on little trips going out to dinner spending every day together and he was looking forward too to see my son we even talked about getting married. Everything was great except the last couple weeks before he got back, he got angry pretty quick over little things, the contact slowed down and he took and still takes everything personal, constantly feeling attacked but just when we text or talk on the phone never face to face.
On the day he got back everything was great we spent 2 days together he apologized for the way he acted towards me lately he told me he was stressed out over there. I understand him he was on plenty of missions out there and he was focused on coming back alive.. He's only here for 2 weeks because he going on leave for a couple weeks to visit his family and his daughter which isn't a big deal for me because I know he misses his family so much.
The thing that bothers me is we didn't do much together at all its like he can have fun with his friends and go out without even asking me if I want to join. I asked him lately if we want to spend the last couple days together before he's going on leave and he rather go out with his friends and said that it seems like that I wanna be all under him all day -->We only seen each other a few times. When we together he's great he treats me nice he isn't mean or angry at all and shows me love yada yada yada. I asked him why he is like that sometimes and he said he's happy with me its just his self sometimes he needs to be by himself sometimes he doesn't feel like doing things at all, doesn't want to see anybody, doesn't want to party, and has no fun in things that once made him happy.
He opened up to me and told me some things that he have seen and how its effected him and I'm sure that's a sign that he trust me: roll eyes:...I just don't understand how he can be all up on me one day and then act like this sometimes..we only have a few days left and it makes me kinda sad that he doesn't want to spend time with me but with his friends I never know when im going to see him again...
I don't know if I'm being selfish right now and overreacting:grumpy: oh and I don't call him at all and only text him when he does because I heard that being needy pushes people with PTSD away...i feel kinda lost right now :bag: every-time when things are great he needs space right after im gone its like he doesn't even bother to not see me before he's going on leave..I hope someone can help me out a bit :in love:
