I feel like it's my fault. The State failed to protect me from him. I couldn't file anything beca...
The state can only do what they can with the information provided. Most judges who grant orders aren't going to go doing background checks to see if the person is lying or not about identity and other things. There are times where they grant both parties an order. It likely depends on the state.
The police do their best to respond to calls for protection order violations or even just domestic violence situations. You have to realize that it depends on where you live and how many officers they have on duty at the time. The responding officers could have been on the other side of the city you were in.
I would think that if he kept filing so many false reports they would have eventually charged him with that. Police stations don't tend to like to waste time and money. Also upon investigating and finding his claims baseless but yours with evidence why didn't they recommend charges to the prosecutor?
None of it is your fault nor is it the police's fault. It's that guy's fault. The police do what they can within the restraints of the law. That's the bottomline. There really is only so much they can do. I'm just wondering why didn't you file immediately after he beat you one of those times? Go with the fresh marks, bruises, etc? They would have to investigate it no matter what he says. Yes they get both statements and it can turn into he said/she said. I had that happen to me. The first time my ex hit me we were in a hotel. Two hours of just him punching, slapping, choking me. Hurling obscene names at me. He was drunk and probably high on meth. Once he finally passed out, I grabbed my bag and left him there. I should have said something to the front desk but I didn't. I just wanted to get out of there. I drove to my dad's house he lived two hours away. My ex woke up and called later and then texted. I said figure it out. I didn't call the police until the next day and went back to the town that Friday with my dad. The female officer I talked to and took my statement swore that he'd be arrested by the weekend.
Nope. They sent uniforms to go talk to him and he gave them a different story. Flat out lie. It became he said/she said. AND the female officer started to believe him. How he played this 50+ year old woman with 20 years of experience as a cop I don't know. She was telling him things I told her and meeting him off duty for lunch. I complained. They assigned a male detective to the case and he tried to get my ex in for a lie detector. Nope. Then after two months of this I got tired of it. And I got back with him and I told the detective I wasn't going to cooperate anymore. They had no other witness so they dropped it. I should have kept the protection order in place but I didn't - but I wouldn't have my daughter had I done it.
It's just really frustrating sometimes dealing with the legal aspect. But the police have to do certain things and prosecutors have to make sure they have enough evidence and that it's documented properly so the defense can't rip them apart in court.
