This drives me INSANE when people recommend screaming into or hitting pillows & other total loss of control practice. So then what does someone do the next time?!? Exactly. As. They’ve. Been. Training. Themselves. To. Do. Lose control and lash out wildly.or direct it into smashing things up and yelling - the worse it got.
And this, right here? Is the cure. The RIGHT answer. Learning control.The turning point - learning to harness the anger. For me, that was boxing, but things like martial arts work brilliantly as well. Refine it, aim it, that ability to turn it on and off helped translate outside of training on the bag/pads. Because it wasn’t just uncontrolled smashing things up and sticking my fist through the wall again. It was directing it, learning to use it as a skill, learning when to hold it back, and when to let it all go.