General How is Everyone?

[Kathy]

Lovely to hear from you again Frankie. Work sounds challenging however being busy is good in my opinion! Wonderful to hear things are going so well between you and your boyfriend.

 

[Frankie]

Thanks Kathy, glad to be able to have the time again !! Yes, how true, with my new position at work, there is no time to think about anything, so that is good lol....and the day flies....I sometimes wish I had more time at work ! but it is a great challenge and I am loving it !

Yea, on the personal front it couldn't be better !

 

[Jim]

Good on you Frankie. Pleased to hear from you.

Jim.

 

[Nicolette]

Nice knowing you are back Frankie. I look forward to talking to you.

 

[wildcritter44]

Thank You Kathy for starting this thread !

:hello: Hi,

Hope things are getting better for you & yr family Kathy.
Actually I hope things are getting for everyone on forum & their families.

Things r so-so, last month the transmission barfed up chunks of metal. Needless to say, it is very dead... lol. No it's really not funny, but if I don't laugh, I might cry !!! :rolleyes:
This month my daughter's truck, (that we are borrowing) decided that my husband did not need to see his Psych. The problem occurred "after" we checked in & got on base. The radius arm bushing bracket (that is attached to the axle) broke loose. Soooo we had to get a piggy-back ride home -- all 92 miles worth... Thankfully we have good insurance (3A) & we didn't have to pay for the tow...BUT we also didn't get to see the DR. or get the blood test he needed. :wall:
$250. later for just parts we did the repair work because we can't afford the repair bill it would have been over a $1,000. We put the brackets on, took it in to have the front end alignment done and we told we needed U-joints and a pivot arm bushing. So we limped the truck home, after buying new U-joints ranger & I proceeded to put new U-joints on. Needless to say, with that expense the credit card is now very full.
It was a lot of pain for ranger...he always takes several days to recover after doing any kind of work on a vehicle. His mood needless to say -- he's been hurting a lot, depressed as a result of the pain, bored, stressed.:crazy:

We r still "waiting" on the VA to come through for us, we called them, sent in more paperwork, etc... According to the VA rep we are getting closer to the 100% disability...The process is sooo long and drawn out that I feel sorry for all those vets that don't have anyone to help them through the "CRAP" and STRESS of dealing with the government red tape... dealing with them is enough to give anyone PTSD.. lol (I am in NO WAY saying PTSD is funny!)

We r merrily hamesters on a wheel & around & around we go... Some days the wheel is slow others it's turning to fast...stress either way !!! I guess that is life in general. I seem to be doing ok as long as ranger is not overly stressed out yelling etc... He spends a lot of time on the computer since we don't have TV.
NO $$, to get the Jeep transmission repaired, NO $$ to go anywhere or do anything...I think that sucks the most...

You all take Care & Hugs :Hug_emoticon: to u

Donna

 

[Kathy]

Lovely to hear from you again Donna. Money troubles are never fun and I am sorry to hear you are still waiting for the VA! It seems to me it has been a very long wait for you. It hope it all comes through for you soon. Thank you for your wishes for my family as well. We have our challenges however I believe things are falling into place for the most part. I wish the same for you and yours.

 

[Sairadance]

challanging to say the least

Hi Kathy. It's nice that you take the time to check how everyone is doing.
I haven't heard from my Boyfriend in 5 days now. The court situation for his job occurred on Thursday last week. My Boyfriends' father told me that they are holding out on the decision until Monday (tomorrow). I haven't heard anything from him and I know from what all of you have told me, that he needs his space to deal with this. It's really hard when you know someone you love is "Numb" and "feels nothing" right now, to the point of not being able to even send a text to say he's hanging in there. In my heart I know he's ok. and will come through this. I just wonder at what point do I say "hey you need to decide if you want contact with me or not"? He's an honourable man who would never just leave me hanging out there forever, but I know I need to take care of myself and will have to draw the line at some point. This is very difficult and long distance makes it worse. How long does one wait when you haven't heard from your partner??? Help!? I'm not contacting him so he can have his space. I'm really just having a bad day.

 

[Kathy]

Could you send him a non-intrusive message such as an email or text message, and do so without placing any expectations upon him? That way the decision to respond can be his entirely. One brief message in 5 days is still respecting his space in my opinion, unless he specifically requested no contact until he reinitiates. If the latter is the case, I would leave him be, difficult as it is.

 

[Sairadance]

A reply

Thanks so much Kathy.
He has never said "do not contact me". I asked him last weekend when I was there and witnessed the "numbing part" if he minded that I send the odd text message. he replied that it didn't bother him. He says, "I just ignore the phone and my cell when I don't feel like talking. Taking your advice, I left a brief mesage on his answering machine saying "just wanted to say hi, and if you don't feel like talking that's ok". No response of course, but I expected that. What a roller coaster...lol. Thank you very much for your support!:wink:

 

[jods]

Hello world!

We have been busy with that crazy thing we call life. Good days & bad days but overall just plain old busy days.

On a positive note hubby will be picking up his very own "new" car tomorrow. He took it for a spin today & felt comfortable driving it so I am over the moon & proud of him for taking this big step.

Will try to get back on more when I can. Hugs to all!

 

[Kathy]

You are most welcome Sairadance. I hope you do hear from him soon.

Lovely to hear from you again Jodee! Busy is a good thing in my books. Well done with Rob's new car! It is quite exciting that he is able to drive again! Jim and I, and Evie, Maggie & Plats all miss you on the forum and wish you well!

 

[Sairadance]

Well Kathy, day 9 and still no word from my boyfriend. I know he's alive and working and functioning to some degree...I looked up his coffee card account that I pre-pay for him from here, and noticed that he has at least been buying coffee for himself and co-workers (I assume). That's a good sign. He has just not resumed contact with me or his parents. I'm thinking that he hasn't heard from the hearring re: job discipline. He hasn't been on the computer either. I tell myself over and over..."I have no control over anyone else, I can only control my own thoughts and emotions". It's tough though. I know 9 days doesn't seem like much, but I'm actually forgetting what it feels like to be with him. Anyone been down that road? I could use a little help here. Thanks.