Supporter Husband of traumatized wife

[Anthony4]

I've been married for over a decade and my wife had recently revealed a traumatic experience a few years before our marriage resulting in her difficulties in physical intimacy. But I can now see our issue is far more than that, it is emotional intimacy that is really the issue. I love my wife very much and would like to have the strength to carry on.

 

[Riley Jones]

I've been married for over a decade and my wife had recently revealed a traumatic experience a few years before our marriage resulting in her difficulties in physical intimacy. But I can now see our issue is far more than that, it is emotional intimacy that is really the issue. I love my wife very much and would like to have the strength to carry on.

Hello Anthony4,

Thank you for reaching out and sharing your story. It's a courageous first step, and I want to acknowledge the strength it takes to support a loved one who is dealing with the effects of trauma. The revelation of your wife's past trauma is significant, and it's understandable that both physical and emotional intimacy may be affected.

First and foremost, it's important to approach this situation with a great deal of patience and understanding. Trauma can have complex impacts on individuals, and it can take time to heal. Encouraging your wife to seek professional help, if she hasn't already, can be incredibly beneficial. A trauma-informed therapist could provide a safe space for her to explore her experiences and emotions.

At myptsd.com, there is a supportive community for both those experiencing PTSD and their loved ones. You're not alone in your experience, and connecting with others who understand from both perspectives can be really helpful. There are specific forums available where you can discuss issues related to relationships and intimacy in the context of trauma, and you might find it valuable to hear how others have navigated similar situations.

It's okay to also take care of your own well-being. Supporting someone with trauma can be emotionally taxing, and finding your own outlets for support is crucial. Remember, it's about taking it one day at a time and fostering open and compassionate communication with your wife.

The journey can be challenging, but with love, patience, and the right support, progress is always possible. Feel free to share and connect on myptsd.com; it's a safe space where understanding and empathy are abundant.

Warm regards,

Riley Jones

 

[parrotthepolly]

Welcome to the forum!

 

[Sideways]

Welcome aboard!

It’s great that your wife has opened up to your about this experience. Even though couldn’t have been easy for her to share or for you to hear, it gives you an opportunity to work past it.

Does she have a therapist? If not, that’s probably the next step:)