I am not responsible for the world- my partner believes he is

[Klanala]

In my new relationship my partner pointed out large expenses then tied them to experiences in his last marriage. I immediately came up with corrective action( behavior mod) told him and he said I was being disrespectful. He raised his voice. He is always commenting on the state of our nation. Feels he survived to make the world better is one of the few good people left. He was a former airforce para rescue EMT. Now I see red flags. I am quite fatigued from the violence protests rise in covid 19. I am a retired RN work as a caregiver. I do not have covid 19. The corrective action will bring in more money off set other expenses . I want to visit a female friend too. He saw it as not wanting to spend as much time together. I am about staying safe. Advice please. Insight please. I am the member who become seizure free. I do not like people yelling anti social behavior etc. Seizure trigger. I am seizure free. We are accountable for our actions. Thank you. Yes- some trust is gone.

 

[Klanala]

In my new relationship my partner pointed out large expenses then tied them to experiences in his last marriage. I immediately came up with corrective action( behavior mod) told him and he said I was being disrespectful. He raised his voice. He is always commenting on the state of our nation. Feels he survived to make the world better is one of the few good people left. He was a former airforce para rescue EMT. Now I see red flags. I am quite fatigued from the violence protests rise in covid 19. I am a retired RN work as a caregiver. I do not have covid 19. The corrective action will bring in more money off set other expenses . I want to visit a female friend too. He saw it as not wanting to spend as much time together. I am about staying safe. Advice please. Insight please. I am the member who become seizure free. I do not like people yelling anti social behavior etc. Seizure trigger. I am seizure free. We are accountable for our actions. Thank you. Yes- some trust is gone.

Ok- update. My partner is a trauma survivor like me. The incident I posted resulted from failure to communicate. We resolved it. He came close to death like me in his past. It is a very stressful time for everyone. He had ACE like me too.

 

[joeylittle]

The incident I posted resulted from failure to communicate. We resolved it.

That's really great, @Klanala.

And hopefully, if something similar ever happens again between the two of you, you can both call back to this experience as a model for how to resolve things.