It is getting hard for me to separate the differences. I cannot tell if he is just being plain old MEAN or if it is his PTSD. When we are physically together, there are no problems for the most part, I enjoy spending time with him, which makes me want to see him more and more.
He recently flat out told me he did not want me to come over, he did not care to see me, that is exactly what he told me. He never really asks me to come over, he told me that I am his girlfriend and I am welcome at anytime, So when I told him I was coming over, he tells me he does not care to see me. I told him it hurt my feelings, and he said, well what do you want me to do, lie to you like most people in relationships and then grow to resent you? I have just never had anyone talk to me this way. I do any and everything for him and feel that I get nothing in return. We also don't communicate much via phone/internet. He said he did not feel the need to since we found out that we are compatible enough to be in a relationship, yet he does not ever ask me over, unless I am the one to go there or initiate it. I will also state that he recently got out of the military and is waiting on his money to be sent to him, so he has admitted feeling less of a man because of it and because he can't do things for me that I have been doing for him instead (like me mostly paying for dates, etc). But I don't mind, because I really like and think I even love this guy, if I didn't I don't think I could still be going thru this with him. We have been together 3 months, I know that is not long, so I feel that I know a lot about him but I don't know enough.
I know females for the most part like to text/talk on the phone more so than a guy does. My guy will literally go a few days without talking to me and maybe even more if I didn't contact him first. I don't want to be the one initiating everything anymore, it makes me feel unwanted. So please, if anyone can give me an insight on what I should do or what I am doing wrong, please help! :(I want to help this guy and I want to make it work, I know he has a great heart and he is a great person underneath his mean front he puts up at times.
He recently flat out told me he did not want me to come over, he did not care to see me, that is exactly what he told me. He never really asks me to come over, he told me that I am his girlfriend and I am welcome at anytime, So when I told him I was coming over, he tells me he does not care to see me. I told him it hurt my feelings, and he said, well what do you want me to do, lie to you like most people in relationships and then grow to resent you? I have just never had anyone talk to me this way. I do any and everything for him and feel that I get nothing in return. We also don't communicate much via phone/internet. He said he did not feel the need to since we found out that we are compatible enough to be in a relationship, yet he does not ever ask me over, unless I am the one to go there or initiate it. I will also state that he recently got out of the military and is waiting on his money to be sent to him, so he has admitted feeling less of a man because of it and because he can't do things for me that I have been doing for him instead (like me mostly paying for dates, etc). But I don't mind, because I really like and think I even love this guy, if I didn't I don't think I could still be going thru this with him. We have been together 3 months, I know that is not long, so I feel that I know a lot about him but I don't know enough.
I know females for the most part like to text/talk on the phone more so than a guy does. My guy will literally go a few days without talking to me and maybe even more if I didn't contact him first. I don't want to be the one initiating everything anymore, it makes me feel unwanted. So please, if anyone can give me an insight on what I should do or what I am doing wrong, please help! :(I want to help this guy and I want to make it work, I know he has a great heart and he is a great person underneath his mean front he puts up at times.
