I Dont Need You, So Get Off My Case!

[DharmaGirl]

TP, my therapist always answers my emails even if I tell him he doesn't have to. His main focus is building our relationship so we can work on the trauma. Right now we are stabilizing because I'm in so much physical pain and waiting for suregery. Once I specifically told him not to email me back and he called instead. I laughed. I have a great therapist who truely cares for me and I feel lucky I just sort of fell into the situation. Just wanting you to know that some therapists do take the extra time that complex trauma patients need to heal.

 

[safenow]

My last therapist, Ron, and I emailed a lot. He would send me emails of beautiful stained glass windows of places he visited on his travels around the world. Also other photos of flowers and mountains, etc. He knew I used these things to ground. When I was in crisis, I could email him, and he'd call me as soon as he was free. But he was an exception to the rule.

Not all therapist act as yours does. Since you have the agreement of only communicating regarding business, then a simple, "got it" would have kept you calm.

I heard what Anthony said, and for the most part agree with him. However, there is this thing called "common courtesy".

I hope things work out the way you want them too. I'm grateful Ron was so caring. I was very sad when he retired. My new one could give a rat's ass that I sent him an email. The only thing I use him for is to help me learn new coping tools. I haven't used him but three times. If I had the money, I wouldn't use him at all.

 

[Pencil]

For those like me with severe abandonment issues, yes, the lack of response to a single email can feel like a gigantic whirlwind rejection, misunderstanding, breach of trust.

He he, oh boy, tell me about it :x3:

You got a massive response to your post, TP, which is great :cool:. Some posts hardly get any attention.

 

[Pencil]

Apologies for double posting above

 

[The Albatross]

Personally I think Bloom in Winter nailed it.

 

[Pencil]

I agree, Albatross

 

[Pencil]

but I got a "rules" reminder on my account this morning

So did I; I assume we all did.

 

[Pencil]

developmental order deficit

I was very tired when I posted. Apologies, it should read 'developmental deficit disorder'.

 

[BloomInWinter]

Yes, the rules reminder was posted for everyone, even the mods.

 

[Pencil]

TP: And now (that the dust has presumably settled) for the million dollar question: Why the hell are you taking a break from therapy if your therapist's involvement, reactions, etc are so important to you that you get yourself into such a state about his 'absence'? :)

 

[tphillips117]

I'm not into any state about his absence. I just wanted to make sure he knew I was returning, that's all. At this point, I don't really care that much anymore.

 

[tphillips117]

Yes, the rules reminder was posted for everyone, even the mods.

Good to know! Thanks!