General I Fell Down And Can't Get Up..

[dayglo]

I'm home!!!! my wife was really good since the last blow-up. Of course, she reminds me every few minutes and expects me to praise her as well. It took her hiring help aids, getting backups to backups to backups, all for a lot of money. But it worked.

Our son is 12 so he is 50% of the time helpful and 50% of the time difficult :)

Now that I'm home, she says she "walked through he battlefield" and doesn't know how much longer she can continue to "be good"

 

[StarChild]

Dear Dayglo, I started reading this thread, I think a few post before you informed us, that you got a cancer diagnosis. Well... I never dared to answer or ask questions... But now I really want to say "Welcome back, dayglo!" I'm relieved, that all the 'transport questions' have been successfully solved... But I would like to ask you, how YOU feel now, if YOU're in pain and generally how YOU are doing after such an operative intervention?

I so hope, I don't sound disrespectful - But at the moment YOUR condition/health is what I'm more interested in... :) Once again "Welcome back" sending you best wishes for a stress-free and full recovery.

 

[dayglo]

I'm tired, in pain, all swollen, have a catheter. I guess I'm concerned that well have a "delayed trigger" when I am no condition to do anything about it... (like argue, run away, etc)

 

[Tinyflame]

Am glad all went well Dayglo. Perhaps it is possible to avoid (some of) the fray by sleeping and getting better. I agree with the others, that has to be the priority, and should be. It's not time for your wife to think about herself.

Peaceful and speedy healing for you. :hug:

 

[monicaelise]

Take your pain meds, you're going to need them for both ends from the sound of it. ;)

Your son is old enough to handle your absence for a day or two, and PTSD or not, your wife is going to have to get over her issues for the moment. What's she gonna do when you die? (Yeah, cancer is that serious)

I say this as the mother to three sons, one of whom is younger than yours, and a very recent cancer survivor. I left my "sufferer" for the duration of my treatment (he'll actually be coming to see me when I get out of surgery later this coming week, we'll see how he handles it...this is the first one I've allowed him to be near me after). While I'm not advising you take such drastic measures, you really do need to look out for yourself for the time being.

 

[StarChild]

I'm tired, in pain, all swollen, have a catheter.

Yep! I think, that has to be expected (I mean your physical condition). Thank you dayglo, for taking the time and energy to answer, despite your condition.

Avoid the fray by sleeping

Yes Junebug, that's what I've been thinking too.

Dayglo, did you get some medication for sleep also? - Just a thought: When I need some extra silence to be able to sleep, I use earplugs (made of foam material, not the old fashion "wax corks". They give me some extra distance to the noisy world around me.

If it's o.k. for you, I will light a candle, and put my best wishes and thoughts on it, for your recovery. Have a good rest!

 

[The Albatross]

Glad you checked in and that you're home, rest and recover. Hope things stay peaceful during this time for you!

 

[Bilby]

Thinking of you, dayglo.

 

[ISupportHer]

Glad you are home and doing well. Ha, ha, you may be experiencing the rebound effect by now. Many people, after ANY surgery, return home, feel pretty good for a day, do too much then the pain kicks their butt for a few days.

BE THE PATIENT! :) Give yourself time to heal so that there are no post-operative complications. Drink LOTS of water!

ISH

 

[dayglo]

My wife insisted on hiring someone to come over today to "help out". She helped out a bit with dished, etc but now my wife is in a tizzy because I didn't need much help. "Why did I hire someone just for you to be superman. $50 dollars down the drain because you refuse to have someone help you". She's close to the edge right now...

 

[ms spock]

I hope things go okay for you Dayglo.

I hope you feel better soon.

 

[dayglo]

Thanks everyone...