Gorjussgeorgia
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My husband and I have been married for coming up on 5 years. We have a 3 year old son. My husband was medically retired from the army for ptsd about 3 years ago. We have had a pretty good marriage, I have struggled with depression because I was moved from Georgia to Oklahoma when he got out of the army. I wasn't loving enough towards him because of my own depression but besides that, we have had a good marriage.
About a month ago he came home and told me he doesn't love me anymore. I was devastated. He asked my son and I to leave and go back to my home town so he could figure out what's going on with him. I got him into counseling before I left. A week prior to him telling me that he doesn't love me anymore. It was the 10 year anniversary of his first deployment to Iraq where his best friend was Kia. So I think that may have triggered this. He has also been having issues with his job, issues financially, issues with his family, and issues with hunting. I love him with all of my heart and I'm trying my hardest to hold on and fight for him but he keeps pushing me further away. Last night on the phone he told me that he has spent his whole adult life married( I'm his third wife) and he just wants to be alone. He also told me that he has only stayed with me for the past 3 years because of our son. So why hasn't he called in the towel yet? He said he needs to work on himself first before he works on us and that's completely understandable. Have any of y'all been through this? Did your wife fight for you? Did it make any difference in the end? He's never been violent towards me or our son and we have never been unfaithful towards each other. I'm just so full of uncertainty right now and I don't know if he's doing all of this because of his ptsd or if he really just wants to end it. I'm the only person he has pushed away, and he has said he's emotionally detached from our son. Please help me understand. Thank you.
About a month ago he came home and told me he doesn't love me anymore. I was devastated. He asked my son and I to leave and go back to my home town so he could figure out what's going on with him. I got him into counseling before I left. A week prior to him telling me that he doesn't love me anymore. It was the 10 year anniversary of his first deployment to Iraq where his best friend was Kia. So I think that may have triggered this. He has also been having issues with his job, issues financially, issues with his family, and issues with hunting. I love him with all of my heart and I'm trying my hardest to hold on and fight for him but he keeps pushing me further away. Last night on the phone he told me that he has spent his whole adult life married( I'm his third wife) and he just wants to be alone. He also told me that he has only stayed with me for the past 3 years because of our son. So why hasn't he called in the towel yet? He said he needs to work on himself first before he works on us and that's completely understandable. Have any of y'all been through this? Did your wife fight for you? Did it make any difference in the end? He's never been violent towards me or our son and we have never been unfaithful towards each other. I'm just so full of uncertainty right now and I don't know if he's doing all of this because of his ptsd or if he really just wants to end it. I'm the only person he has pushed away, and he has said he's emotionally detached from our son. Please help me understand. Thank you.
