Relationship I Think My Girlfriend Has Ptsd

[SunriseLover]

Sure, I'll get it to you by tomorrow afternoon!

 

[Sftbll2003]

Good Afternoon, SunriseLover have you heard from girlfriend yet? I have talked to several people on here that has had to wait weeks before hearing anything. I haven't talked to my boyfriend since last Friday and it is killing me but the only thing I can do is pray and wait.

 

[Namaste01]

@SunriseLover --- There are many health related illnessess that come along with PTSD some can be gastro. I was in and out of the hospital for 2 years and they could find nothing!...If she has gastro problems she may have caught a bug overseas as well that's possible.

The thing is that it can be very hard to verbalize what we are truly feeling. For example my friend or therapist will ask me what is upsetting you? and I can't put it into words whatsoever. I just start to cry ,or feel very upset and shut down emotionally, even though nothing has "set me off". THAT IS SO FRUSTRATING!!! Because you don't want someone to be upset with you for not being yourself and you don't even know why.

With her being triggered at work often/daily/hourly, it can be really hard to do anything else after that. A person doesn't want to seem "crazy" at work or in public, so they bottle it up, and can make them extremely tired when they have the chance. That's why we seem "normal" around everyone else. She may have lots of energy at work because her fight/flight is heightened by the anxiety of the uncomfortable atmosphere, leaving her exhausted when she gets home.

I am having a similar issue with the people making suggestions causing me to get upset. I actually told my friend today to NOT make suggestions on what can make things better. At this stage just be supportive, that's really all you can do. Being pushy or making someone feel bad for not hanging out will only make them feel worse (guilty) for not being normal, and isolate themselves, pushing you away even more.

 

[SunriseLover]

She broke up with me yesterday. Over text. She said she would call but never did. She said none of this is my fault and that she doesn't want to hurt me anymore, then basically said in the next message she just wants to be single. And also told me she's looking for jobs overseas. I feel for her so much, but I am very angry with how she treated me the past month and couldn't even give me the courtesy of a phone call. Even her abusive and cheating exes got a phone call.

 

[SunriseLover]

But thank you for that reply, Namaste01, that makes soo so much sense. That explains how it's easy for her to be at work and around friends. She can fake it. She can't around me though, and that must be exhausting.

 

[amethist]

Hi Sunrise

So sorry to hear your relationship has now ended.

Please now take good care of yourself and remember sometimes sufferers just cant hold onto relationships, for lots of reasons, none of them being any fault of yours.