If You Could Change One Thing....

[Deleted member 12723]

If I could change one thing, my husband would never have gotten Parkinsons and dementia and we would still be living in the mountains. He would still be alive and we would be very happy together. And I would still have all of my stuff I had to throw away when we moved.

 

[Deleted member 12723]

I would have stayed in touch with my friends better.

 

[nomedic1]

I wouldn't have put my life in danger as often as I did

 

[Britt.f7]

I would have fought harder for some relationships and not fought as hard for ones that turned out to be so unhealthy.

 

[roaminggnome]

If I could change one thing I would stop trying to forget my past and instead embrace it in a healthy way to move forward.

 

[Britt.f7]

I would change my fear of leaving the house, to being carefree and less fearful.

 

[twopenny]

Two things, and I'm not sure which I would choose if I had to...

After my Nana died, and the council were on the point of kicking me out of the house I grew up in, and that my Dad was born in, I went to see a councillor, and he asked me what I wanted. Just what I wanted to happen. And I rationalised and minimised myself out of the only home I'd ever known, and that I desperately wanted to stay in.


After my uncle found out that my mother had been hitting me and my Nana for years, he threw her out on the streets in the clothes she stood up in - changed the locks while she was at work. And made me be the one to tell her. I'd stand up to him now. Tell him that what he was doing to her was wrong, whatever she'd done, and that I wanted no part in it.

 

[Froggie]

I sometimes wonder if I would have stayed in the Lac-St-Jean region working as a bilingual secretary if I would have avoided experiencing PTSD. Or was I destined to have this life experience no matter where I was and what I was doing.

 

[Froggie]

I would have left my second husband during my second pregnancy or closely after the birth of my son. I would have avoided all the marital abuse, BUT I wouldn't have been able to adopt my 2 youngest sons. This would have been too much for me as 2 kids was a small family for me. All those what ifs that come sturing up ... :(

 

[roaminggnome]

An email I wrote that I shouldn't have.

 

[Deleted member 12723]

I would fast forward to a year from now when surely I will feel so much better. Grief and loss suck.

 

[CraftyCath]

If I could change just one thing...

I would have reported my abuser to the union and fought to get justice and then, maybe, I could have kept the career I loved so much.