If You Could Change One Thing....

[Britt.f7]

I think I would change how my brain thinks at times. It seems that would make my life much easier.

 

[exhausted 81]

I would have learned about PTSD sooner and been more supportive of my sufferer and not so selfish.

 

[exhausted 81]

If I could choose one thing to change, it would be all the times I purposely sabotaged my life, be it with work, school, or relationships.

Me too :(

 

[Deleted member 12723]

I would move on with my life and begin a new without all of the garbage in my mind and heart.

 

[Jenfa]

I would have left long before I got to the point of telling that damn man that I know where and when he sleeps.

 

[Britt.f7]

I would change how insecure I am.

 

[Flossy]

@gizmo Grief and loss do suck. I hope it has faded a little. Maybe not. After 10 years it does. I promise. I go for weeks not remembering I had a son. It's been 14 years for me. I have accepted this as part of grief and never feel guilty.

It helped me a lot to get onto a grief support forum for a year or two. I used Compassionate Friends. It helps to find someone with circumstances closest to your own.

 

[Deleted member 12723]

Thank you Flossy so much for your words of comfort to me. I am sorry for the loss of your son. It has been six years since my son died. Two years ago, my husband died from being so sick for three years. I got into a grief support group as well.

 

[holdenmonty]

I would change how I treated my wife before I initially got help. That is really the only regret I have.

 

[Flossy]

@gizmo My biggest fear is to lose my husband too. I am so sorry for you. I guess recently I have made peace that it is possible and even picked out where I would go to live if it happens. That gave me more peace about it. You and I could be coffee buddies if we lived in Shimmerzville (If we all lived in the same town) thread. I don't have friends. Not what I call friends anyway. You become a whole different human when your child dies. (((hug)))

 

[oasis2003]

I would change that I had ptsd. But then I would not be talking to you guys and I don't think I would be me.