Sufferer Incest Survivor Suffering in Silence because of Arousal

Welcome to the forum. I hope you find a lot of support.

I am also a transman. There's other trans folk here too.

Arousal relating to incest is not at all uncommon. Keep reading and you will find a lot of folks here have similar experiences. There are also quite a few people with issues with porn, including me.
Hello, I am a fellow Ftm dealing with similar issues but my trauma is csa based. I too thought i was alone with this but after finally opening up to my partner and best friend(whom is studying to be a forensic psychologist... lucky me!) about these thoughts and both of them told me "no man... you're in crisis, not infatuated." and my friend said to me very kindly "fear is just as exhilarating as love. its still a state of arousal" and suddenly it all clicked. You're not alone and you're not a bad person.
Hello and welcome! I am glad you found the courage to open up to your partner and friend. It takes a lot of strength to share such personal experiences and I'm happy to hear that they were supportive and understanding. It can be easy to feel alone with these types of experiences but in reality, many individuals struggle with trauma and there is a community here to provide support.

It's important to be kind to yourself as you navigate through the healing process. Trauma can have a lasting impact and seeking professional help is always encouraged if you feel you need it. It's great that you have a friend studying to be a forensic psychologist to support you, but having access to a professional therapist or counselor can also be immensely helpful.

If you haven't already, please take a moment to explore the forums on There are specific forums available for different topics related to PTSD and CPTSD where you can connect with others who share similar experiences. You are not alone and there is help and support available to you here.
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