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[Jimmy1]

This is just my opinion by the way.

The major difference between the two I spotted while a member of the other forum. They generally talk more openly about their trauma's. Also, most veterans don't say an awful lot unless they are venting or are passionate about something. When I first joined I said very little, just watched, observed and offered an opinion now and then.
In December 09 when I first joined there were a whole heap of other veterans who gave me advise and put me on the straight and narrow but now they have drifted off. One day they might come back.
The biggest difference is not the PTSD though I believe, its the military training. We as veterans have very little sympathy. I know I was taught by my drill sergeant that sympathy was found in the dictionary between shit and syphilis. We can empathise with other veterans, but its more an 'I hear you mate' or a shake of the head.
You notice on the other forum too that its become more of a community. The can't wait to get online and talk about what happened the day before, whereas we want to forget about that and live day by day.
You have been around long enough K9 to work out when someone does not fit.

Remember, there are also veterans with PTSD who don't fit here either. They are the ones who are still not settled and think everything is a conspiracy.

If anyone else pops up as a member wanting to write a paper or do some research, we should direct them straight to Anthony. They would not be allowed to be members, but their details might be posted so we can discuss things if we want. I suppose its a personal choice.

Personally, I think I have all the tools, support mechanism's, and medication to guide me and I manage my PTSD quiet well. Don't worry, I still get days where I am out of control, but they are few and far between and are usually as a result of a trigger or two which have escaped me.

I stay on the forum as I get a sense of satisfaction in being able to give some help to my brothers and sisters in arms.
It might not be much, but if I can just help one person every now and then, then I will be happy.
Oh yeah, I also enjoy the company of some of the Tossers like Mr Alan Todd and the likes. lmao.

 

[Fargo1]

This is just my opinion by the way.

The biggest difference is not the PTSD though I believe, its the military training. We as veterans have very little sympathy. I know I was taught by my drill sergeant that sympathy was found in the dictionary between shit and syphilis. We can empathise with other veterans, but its more an 'I hear you mate' or a shake of the head.
You notice on the other forum too that its become more of a community. The can't wait to get online and talk about what happened the day before, whereas we want to forget about that and live day by day.

It's funny that you say this (I know you have said it before, but I just caught it today) I was talking with a friend the other day and he said, "You are not a very sympathetic person." He is right, I don't have sympathy (feelings of pity and sorrow for someone else's misfortune). I do have empathy (the ability to understand the feelings of another).

The "I hear you mate." is exactly it. I hear the story, sometimes I have been there myself, but the Beast or training, or both prevent me from feeling. My Psych tells me that is her goal for me, to be able to feel sympathy again....maybe that's what we all need?

Just rambling now....

 

[Jimmy1]

It's funny that you say this (I know you have said it before, but I just caught it today) I was talking with a friend the other day and he said, "You are not a very sympathetic person." He is right, I don't have sympathy (feelings of pity and sorrow for someone else's misfortune). I do have empathy (the ability to understand the feelings of another).

The "I hear you mate." is exactly it. I hear the story, sometimes I have been there myself, but the Beast or training, or both prevent me from feeling. My Psych tells me that is her goal for me, to be able to feel sympathy again....maybe that's what we all need?

Its more than not feeling. We actually do feel others pain, we just can't display the emotion. Thats where the training comes in. 'Harden the f*ck Up' is what was said to us.

The other stupid part is that I can be watching a movie by myself and a soppy part will appear and I find tears in my eyes. Maybe because we are alone we believe we are allowed to show emotion.

Your psych's goal will be to get you to display emotion.

Its not just us though mate. There is the police, paramedics, padre's, etc. When they are in the public eye, they can't be all teary eyed.

I actually find its funny that someones introduction has turned into a thread with good info.

 

[Fargo1]

I actually find its funny that someones introduction has turned into a thread with good info.

Maybe my girl was right, I don't pay enough attention to others.

ROTFL, oh Jesus, now here is the depth of my depravity...I didn't even notice that not only were we posting in someone's introduction page...but an introduction page from an idiot who set everyone off and got himself banned....Now that is irony!

 

[Tim &Bailey]

Jimmy and Fargo- Reminds me of the Geico commercial with Gunney R Lee Emery-(when he's a drill seargent /therapist) You know what makes me sad? You DO! WHY DON'T WE JUST MARCH RIGHT DOWN TO MAMBY PAMBY LAND WHERE MAYBE WE CAN BUY SOME SELF CONFIDENCE FOR YOU YA JACK WAGON!

There's alot to be said for us Vets- I'm told often by my wife I'm about as smooth as 80 grit sand paper. I have no pity simply because I don't want any. I vent to my brothers because they have been there and they therefore understand. Something to be said for brothers and sisters in arms. Those who have been there get it those who haven't just don't. We have formed a community but its not a touchy feely one like th eother forum. It's just like when we were there everyone's an accquaintance very few friends. two reasons
1- you never trust anybody that much anymore
2-you get tired of making friends who keep disappearing on you

Tim & Bailey

 

[BV101]

Oh yeah, I also enjoy the company of some of the Tossers like Mr Alan Todd and the likes. lmao.

oh do f*ck off with that. If I had any feelings, I would be quite upset by that. Luckily for me I am an absolute c*nt.

 

[Fargo1]

And where would we be with out all the c*nts in the world?

 

[Jimmy1]

oh do f*ck off with that. If I had any feelings, I would be quite upset by that. Luckily for me I am an absolute c*nt.

You know I don't mean it Alan, and if your offended, 'Harden the f*ck Up' .:D

 

[Ned]

Well I object to being referred to as a tosser. I'm a KNOB, actually, Alan said so....

 

[Jimmy1]

Isn't it amazing who people take words all differently in different parts of the world and even in our own countries.

If you called a girl a bitch in Queensland here, it would mean nothing.
Here though, if you called someone a real 'c*nt', it is considered offensive.
Tosser is only a slight insult in Australia.

In the end, it depends on how it is pronounced and how it is used in a sentence.

 

[Ned]

It was hurt pride, Jimmy. Tosser is far too mild.
Knob will do for now, one day I hope to merit 'complete twat'

 

[Ned]

Sweepstake on that incoming?????????