Made A Decision

[Casey_03]

So, I've been trying to come up with a plan for a while on how to relocate back to the States after being gone for more than 10 years. Now that I have a baby son, I knew I'd have to move back closer to family, so that he wouldn't be deprived of having relatives around. I had been telling myself I'd save up and move back once I find a good job. But screw it. Today I decided to settle for less and move in with my senile grandmother. She has no one around to look after her and the house is empty; no one wants to live with her because she's quite mean in her dementia. It's not an ideal living situation, and will be rough if I end up having to care for her in addition to my son, but it will at least keep me close to a lot of to other family members, and right next to my hometown. And that's where many of my old friends are. Seems like just the change I need. I will settle for some lackluster job at first and then try to get a scholarship or grant to go back to school. Sometimes it's okay to settle for less. I feel a great sense of relief -- this is the first time I actually felt that this is the right decision.

 

[SoSadGuilty]

So, I've been trying to come up with a plan for a while on how to relocate back to the States after be...

Great news @Casey_03 When do you plan on packing up and leaving?

 

[Casey_03]

Probably not for a few months, unless I start to go crazy sooner. I have quite a bit I'll need to ship back before I can leave, and still have to get little man a passport. So don't want to rush it.

 

[Silver.]

This is really good news. I know there is a lot going on involving your ex and what not, so this feels like it will be a good fresh start for you.
There may be some challenges, but it will be really good to be around family, so you can have the support that you need.
I can feel your relief at having a good plan of action through the computer screen. Congratulations! x

 

[hodge]

I'm so glad for you, Casey.

 

[Crow]

Tiny steps lead to where we want to be. Wishes for good travel!

 

[scout86]

Sounds like a good idea! Could be a win/win too, you never know. Depending on where it is, quite a few states have programs in place to help keep the elderly in their own homes. You might be able to find some resources there to help you out. I hope this is a turning point and life settles down a bit for you!

 

[Deleted member 12723]

I am so happy for you. It is hard to care for a mean dementia person so I agree with Scout that go for the elder help care, every little bit helps.

Sounds like a great plan that offers you friends, family and support. I wish you the best on the move.

 

[joeylittle]

@Casey_03 - that's a great decision, I think, and congratulations on making it. Nothing in this world is ever ideal, but usually, making one step towards change helps more change happen. :tup:

 

[Gadgie]

It must have been an agonising time for you while your considering your options, and I know how hard it is to come to a decision.

Now that you made your decision, I bet you feel more content inside, and proud. It a great thing you are doing, and I wish you all the best with your future, well done.

 

[Sideways]

I'm really stoked for you. I think this is a great decision for you and what you need right now and in the coming years. With all the things you've overcome these past years, there is no doubt in my mind that you will make this work out. Wishing you all the best, and lots of hope for your future, and your son's:)