Married But Alone

[Anna]

Maybe because of my illness I never really saw it before?

My marriage is cold. I spend most evenings alone, in a completly seperate room from my partner. My partner never wants to go out or do anything with me. Never spends any time with me at all. I have tried for years, I envy other couples walking hand in hand.

I go out with a female friend from work now. She has the same problem with her partner. Her situation is much much worse.

I am so very very lonely.

 

[missmary]

I'm in the opposite situation. I want to be left alone and on my own and all he does is nag and push me to do stuff with him all the time. He gets upset that I've become so antisocial. I'd rather just read my book in bed alone and fall asleep than go to dinner (I have an ED) or to a friend's house or whatever. I feel alone too, even though he's there and wants to do stuff. But I feel like he doesn't understand what I am going through and therefore isn't the best of supporters around me, and therefore I would rather just ignore him for now. It's a lonely trip, but I expect it to get better. SOMEHOW!

 

[Magnoliagal]

Was your partner always like this or it is something new?

 

[Anna]

He used to make an effort, but recently it has become worse. He really hates going out. I am actually beginning to wonder if he may have Aspergers?

 

[ms spock]

It is hard to be lonely Anna.

I think it is great you are going out with a friend now. That is great.

If you have been trying for years, perhaps it is time to strike out on your own and join some hobby groups, reading groups or classes on your own? Perhaps start going out to some Cafes for a hot beverage in the evening or the library so you are around people and having some social contact.

You don't have to sit in your room on your own. You can make plans and leave the house or invite other people over, if you feel like it. Making plans and going off and do your own thing so you have social contact and friendship.

 

[Ladyghosthunter]

WOW...we should all get together for a dinner out. My soon to be former husband; we never had anything in common really. He didn't understand or liked what I liked. He thinks that I change my mind constantly (part of PTSD) and when I asked him about him knowing the symptoms of what I had, he said he didn't want or need to know. I would rather be alone in my own little world getting better with the friends who understand what I'm going through than with a man/boyfriend/husband who couldn't give a **** less. I feel like constantly being alone which I guess is the opposite of what you're going through. To me, men or any partner for that matter is a disruption until I can get things under control to the point I can get myself together. (((HUGS)))