LOL Ghost; yes, I agree with Grainne; you are a wordsmith! And thanks G and Skyp for the welcomes! Truthfully, these relationships that I'm finding difficult now have not been without their benefits; I am able to share my story because of the strength of these women, and because of what I have learned from them. That is why it is so hard to set those boundaries to protect myself; especially when over-caring for others in stead of focusing on myself has become routine.