My anxiety has been at a very high level recently

[juliana]

Its because I keep on getting triggered it's a hard to in communicates and some other stuff going on. I have seen the news about the sit in and I don't feel vindicated yet. Seattle Passific university students disagreeing with professors. And more stuff at my new school is making me feel really anxious and Alex truama.

My anxiety has reached crisis level 9 recently and I had to call a crisisline as my last resort coping with it. I am still feeling high level anxiety..

 

[juliana]

I need to go on a walk outside to make my anxiety less high but I am tk anxious that I am going to see someone from that f*ckin Abolish the police group that will not stop coming to my neighborhood and that's making me more anxious.

 

[Movingforward10]

Being highly anxious for a continued state is really horrible. Sorry you are going through that.

Do breathing exercises help?
They don't help me really when I'm too anxious, but everyone recommends it.

What helps me is trying to get a sense of reality rather than let my anxiety dictate.
Sounds like the feeling of safety is something you need? And going out you are worried about bumping into someone who has traumatised you.
Would a plan to know how to deal with that situation help? I.e if you see them, can you turn around and walk away? Or go into a shop so you are with other people? Or phone someone?

How likely is it that you would see them? Maybe saying" I only saw them once" or whatever it has been, so that if it isn't likely, (if it isn't), then you can help ground yourself with that knowledge?

 

[shimmerz]

What type of activities can you do (besides walking) that help you relieve your anxiety states?

Also, if watching about these things puts your anxiety through the roof, why are you watching? Your health is the MOST important thing. It comes before all. Can you stop triggering yourself?

 

[juliana]

Being highly anxious for a continued state is really horrible. Sorry you are going through that.

Do breathing exercises help?
They don't help me really when I'm too anxious, but everyone recommends it.

What helps me is trying to get a sense of reality rather than let my anxiety dictate.
Sounds like the feeling of safety is something you need? And going out you are worried about bumping into someone who has traumatised you.
Would a plan to know how to deal with that situation help? I.e if you see them, can you turn around and walk away? Or go into a shop so you are with other people? Or phone someone?

How likely is it that you would see them? Maybe saying" I only saw them once" or whatever it has been, so that if it isn't likely, (if it isn't), then you can help ground yourself with that knowledge?

Yea I do deep breathing and other coping. I look at beautiful pictures scroll through on my phone. And I do five senses coping. In the worst case last resort I called a crisis line if my anxiety gets too crisis levels 9. I feel safe around Mercer. That's a good to consider what I need in that situation I could and usually do just turn around and walk the other way. Going into shop would also work for the most part. If seeing someone makes my anxiety at level nine and the five senses coping doesn't work to bring it down then I can call the crisis line as a last resort coping.

I normally don't see people like daily but there are times where it's pretty darn likely that I would see someone. Like yesterday I went to go boarding with my friend and I saw about four people. Not worst case scenario people to see but about four people associated with that group while trying to walk to the bus.

What type of activities can you do (besides walking) that help you relieve your anxiety states?

Also, if watching about these things puts your anxiety through the roof, why are you watching? Your health is the MOST important thing. It comes before all. Can you stop triggering yourself?

I do deep breathing go to the gym play board games. I do My five senses coping look at beautiful pictures on my phone and listen to really quick rain sounds. My last resort coping is calling the crisis line if my anxiety is at anxiety level 9.

Yeah I can't always stop myself from triggering myself but there are things I could not watch that would make sure that I don't feel as triggered totally like just not look around while I'm out watching things just kind of like stare at the ground.

I don't need to be only stareing at the ground. Other people need to be more thoughtful about not trigging me over text messages I can ingore some stuff that is mean or triggering just not looking at it.

 

[joeylittle]

Other people need to be more thoughtful about not trigging me over text messages

Can you just block those numbers entirely?

Other people will never, ever do what we want them to do. They'll make their own choices. What we CAN do is make choices about our level of exposure.

 

[Friday]

I need to go on a walk outside to make my anxiety less high but I am tk anxious that I am going to see someone from that f*ckin Abolish the police group that will not stop coming to my neighborhood and that's making me more anxious.

The neighborhood I live in isn’t super walkable… built during the bizarre time when sidewalks weren’t a thing / everyone was blissed out about never having to walk again (cars)… so I drive somewhere, or catch a bus/train/etc. to go for a walk.

I feel safe around Mercer.

The Mercer Mess?

Maybe head farther north? The light rail runs to the UW, and if the campus is too protesty there’s always the Mountlale Cut, Mary Gates Parkway past the sports fields, meandering down to the Lake 6 different ways, etc. Super safe neighborhoods, and a helluva lot fewer people than crossing to Greenlake in the summertime, but that’s another go-to for many people wanting to get their 3-5 miles in. Other options abound, of course, with community center classes, et al.

(Nope. I don’t live in SeaTown. Did for several years, though.)

Other people will never, ever do what we want them to do.

So. Much. THIS.

 

[shimmerz]

Other people need to be more thoughtful about not trigging me over text messages I can ingore some stuff that is mean or triggering just not looking at it.

A massive part of the healing process is recognizing that only we are responsible for our triggers. That can be painful. It can mean having to block people who don't 'get our triggers', it can mean having to withdraw socially, it can mean having to really work on our own boundaries and respect the boundaries of others. It is difficult. Sometimes it feels impossible. Nobody is going to care about your health unless you do. Lead by example. 'Sorry, I can't look at this without it spinning me out. Let's not communicate in that way anymore until I have a grip on my reactions to it.'

See how it is all about you? Not about 'They need to be....'

That's not the way it works....

 

[juliana]

Can you just block those numbers entirely?

Other people will never, ever do what we want them to do. They'll make their own choices. What we CAN do is make choices about our level of exposure.

Yes and I did block everyone when that stuff happened and I could block anyone that is not being respectful if the level of exposure I am choosing to have definitely.

A massive part of the healing process is recognizing that only we are responsible for our triggers. That can be painful. It can mean having to block people who don't 'get our triggers', it can mean having to withdraw socially, it can mean having to really work on our own boundaries and respect the boundaries of others. It is difficult. Sometimes it feels impossible. Nobody is going to care about your health unless you do. Lead by example. 'Sorry, I can't look at this without it spinning me out. Let's not communicate in that way anymore until I have a grip on my reactions to it.'

See how it is all about you? Not about 'They need to be....'

That's not the way it works....

I just don't view it like that I am sorry. That would mabye be true in another situation but it's not true for me. I don't want to be around anyone from that Abolish the police group I should have triggers about that. I witnessed a sexual assulted and was bullied for a long time after by abolish the police. I have asked they not be around me or message me anymore. And outside of abolish the police for other people that k interact with when I have a trigger it's destressing it's bullying for someone to trigger me repeatedly if I ask them to stop.

The neighborhood I live in isn’t super walkable… built during the bizarre time when sidewalks weren’t a thing / everyone was blissed out about never having to walk again (cars)… so I drive somewhere, or catch a bus/train/etc. to go for a walk.


The Mercer Mess?

Maybe head farther north? The light rail runs to the UW, and if the campus is too protesty there’s always the Mountlale Cut, Mary Gates Parkway past the sports fields, meandering down to the Lake 6 different ways, etc. Super safe neighborhoods, and a helluva lot fewer people than crossing to Greenlake in the summertime, but that’s another go-to for many people wanting to get their 3-5 miles in. Other options abound, of course, with community center classes, et al.

(Nope. I don’t live in SeaTown. Did for several years, though.)


So. Much. THIS.

I did the summer after it happened go for walks other places and I can check out some other areas to walk around everyonce and awhile. Wail boarding I have walked around sometimes in other places I can try doing that more often. That's cool you lived here for a bit.

Its like a boundary that I need to walk around this neighborhood sometimes and people need to respect the boundaries I have about the truama and not be around me. I guess I just, need to not do anything differently about how I am going about things because I didn't do the le el of harm that people from abolish the police did to me.

 

[joeylittle]

I guess I just, need to not do anything differently about how I am going about things because I didn't do the le el of harm that people from abolish the police did to me.

Yes, it's wrong that they are bullying you.

But you can make a choice between actively fighting them and getting consistently triggered and upset, or you can cut them all off, move forward with your life, and heal.

Personally, I don't consider that a bad thing.

people need to respect the boundaries I have about the truama and not be around me.

I'd really ask that you try and understand why this isn't going to work.

It's not going to work for the same reason that you are insisting you shouldn't change your patterns, they need to change theirs. They would probably say exactly the same about you. Not because they are right and you are wrong, just because it's what people often do. People stand their ground when they think they are in the right.

Getting upset at them for being in your space will do nothing but leave you upset. You have to assume that they aren't going to change in order to help you.

You change, so you can help yourself.

 

[juliana]

Yes, it's wrong that they are bullying you.

But you can make a choice between actively fighting them and getting consistently triggered and upset, or you can cut them all off, move forward with your life, and heal.

Personally, I don't consider that a bad thing.

I'd really ask that you try and understand why this isn't going to work.

It's not going to work for the same reason that you are insisting you shouldn't change your patterns, they need to change theirs. They would probably say exactly the same about you. Not because they are right and you are wrong, just because it's what people often do. People stand their ground when they think they are in the right.

Getting upset at them for being in your space will do nothing but leave you upset. You have to assume that they aren't going to change in order to help you.

You change, so you can help yourself.

I don't need to change in this situation I didn't do anything wrong. I'm in therapy and learning skills to manage the aftermath of the horrible impact what that completely f*cked abusive ex partner did Alex and that abolish the police group.

Bullies have the patterns that needs to be worked on. I already cut times with that Abolish the police group. After I witnessed Travis sexual assault Lisa. Then some members of that Abolish but police group like celebrating that f*cking abusive rapist Travis hate for the police. Then like bullying me because I consider telling the police I witnessed a rape. I told everyone to never contact or be around me again. That lasted for maybe like a week before Abolish the police then contacted me again to let me know that Travis has murdered Lisa in the park. I didn't know who died at first and I thought it was someone at the time time that I consider a friend.

Yeah @joeylittle just going to upset me and they are probably thinking the same about me? Well the thing is that I didn't like put them around a rapist that, bully them, call them names infront of over two hundred people, threanted or follow them around. They did that to me and if it even really matters and it doesn't overmessaged them. So I'm gonna keep my view on it they need to leave and change. I'm tired of getting blamed for shit that isn't my fault and of people being so f*cking much kinder to that Abolish the police group then they are to me. Could you please not talk to me about this anymore in this way it's is not something that is feeling supportive to me.

 

[juliana]

I don't need to change in this situation I didn't do anything wrong. I'm in therapy and learning skills to manage the aftermath of the horrible impact what that completely f*cked abusive ex partner did Alex and that abolish the police group.

Bullies have the patterns that needs to be worked on. I already cut times with that Abolish the police group. After I witnessed Travis sexual assault Lisa. Then some members of that Abolish but police group like celebrating that f*cking abusive rapist Travis hate for the police. Then like bullying me because I consider telling the police I witnessed a rape. I told everyone to never contact or be around me again. That lasted for maybe like a week before Abolish the police then contacted me again to let me know that Travis has murdered Lisa in the park. I didn't know who died at first and I thought it was someone at the time time that I consider a friend.

Yeah @joeylittle just going to upset me and they are probably thinking the same about me? Well the thing is that I didn't like put them around a rapist that, bully them, call them names infront of over two hundred people, threanted or follow them around. They did that to me and if it even really matters and it doesn't overmessaged them. So I'm gonna keep my view on it they need to leave and change. I'm tired of getting blamed for shit that isn't my fault and of people being so f*cking much kinder to that Abolish the police group then they are to me. Could you please not talk to me about this anymore in this way it's is not something that is feeling supportive to me.

But to top that shit off the police ends up already knew that crime happened in the park and didn't arrest Travis because he was in the park and they weren't arresting people in the park apparently. Though I was told that by someone pretty untrustworthy. Like I thought about telling the police what happened after someone was murdered and Travis killed him self so he could not get in trouble for having murder Lisa. And the Abolish the police group like bullied me for that the police clearly already knew about the person that died. So I actually never told the police. Then I will admit that I don't really view the police as wholly positively in this situation. The next time I saw the police I was walking past a protest and someone felt the need to shove me. Im sorry I just really don't like when people tell me what I am supposed to do about that truama. I'm working on the triggers being less intese and other stuff in therapy that is private.