My Apology

[MouseWedger]

I just wanted to write a quick note, not sure where it belongs but this seems as good a place as any. Forgive me if it makes little sense, few things do right now.

I wanted to apologize to everyone here who might read my posts. I feel like all I do is whine and no one should have to listen to it. I haven't decided yet, but I think I should probably step away from the forum, at least for a while, until I can stop complaining. I know that no one wants to hear it, it does not belong in a place for healing. So, again, I am sorry. I wish everyone the best.

Mouse

 

[BloomInWinter]

((((Mousie))))

I think we all feel that way sometimes, but I've not seen anything that would qualify you to get to wear the 'whiners club' button, truly.

Please do take care of yourself.

 

[mamachick]

I agree with Bloomin that we all feel this way sometimes. When I do-I try to focus less on myself and my problems and more on responding to others posts and encouragaing them without posting about my own specifics. When I am feeling overwhelmed, it doesnt help to tell myself that others have it worse. What does help me is to take a day off from my own stuff and try to contribute to helping others. Giving gets me out of my own stuff.

Take care and hope to see you back soon.

 

[Srain]

((((((((((((Mouse)))))))))))))))
I haven't felt you've been whining at all, I certainly don't feel like you should go anywhere.

Many of us have been silent far too long and never had anyone actually listen to us before so maybe it feels like it's "whining" or we were told that's what was by those who had no time for us but that's not how I feel at all. I do have time to listen to you and I do care, I don't think you should go off and get "better" to come back to a place that's meant for support.

Peace and healing,
Rain

 

[maddog]

Mouse, as others have said, I have seen absolutely nothing in your writings that I would consider to be whining. Healthy venting, sharing, self expression and airing of some very difficult and complex emotions, yes indeed... but whining, absolutely not.

I believe this forum is premised on the simple philosophy of give and take, and somehow, in a way which I find quite intriguing, it somehow works. We all vent and battle hard to share what are often horrifically difficult emotions and experiences, and it's likely the only place that many of us do. And we all give whatever we can, whenever we can, to those who share our experiences, or to those who are trying to learn to understand them. It would be sad for you or anyone else to feel that that healthy balance of give and take did not apply to them.

Only you can know how much or how little to post, but I do hope that you are silent only when you wish to be, and that you will continue to offer support to others and to share your own experiences as and when you feel the desire to do so. And besides, we'd miss your contributions if you did go...

 

[mamachick]

((((((((((((Mouse)))))))))))))))
I haven't felt you've been whining at all, I certainly don't feel like you should go anywhere.

Many of us have been silent far too long and never had anyone actually listen to us before so maybe it feels like it's "whining" or we were told that's what was by those who had no time for us but that's not how I feel at all. I do have time to listen to you and I do care, I don't think you should go off and get "better" to come back to a place that's meant for support.

Peace and healing,
Rain

I agree with rain about not going off to get better, I think this is a safe place to learn new behaviors and healthy feelings about things that we have trouble with. I hope by not addressing that previously that I didnt make you think that I agreed with you being whiney, thats not the case. There is such a good balance of give and take here. I hope you reconsider.

 

[MouseWedger]

Thanks guys - I'm not sure what got into me last night. :oops: I think I just had too much running through my head all at once, and somewhere in there a voice from the past kept yelling to "quit {your} bitching" so I felt like that was all I had done and that no one cared. Thank you for showing me I was wrong, and that it's OK to let it out. I think I just saw my sanity walk back through the door with some coffee...:speechless:

 

[Queen Boudica]

Mouse, You have nothing to apologise for.

I feel a lot like you, that at the moment I am just whining a lot. But I think it is all part of the process. And it is important to recognise your feelings and not bottle them in. This is a safe place to do it. And we are all pretty much in the same boat.

So go ahead, whine, rant, scream. No-one is judging. We all understand.

 

[MouseWedger]

Thanks Liz, I'll continue my whining then ;)