General My Boyfriend Has PTSD Too

[HopefulChristian]

Also, I love quotes as well. Here is one that came to mind:
"There's a decision in the heart that the mind cannot understand".

 

[Lady Michigan]

Thanks Hopeful !
Your up spirits bring mine up too! and I love that quote
"There's a decision in the heart that the mind cannot understand".
Im going to use it the next time someone doubts me sticking around.
I too believe in following your heart and everything will happen the way its suppose to happen =)

 

[amethist]

As long as your heart does not get broken along the way. Do take good care of it while your waiting.

This may sound harsh, but sometimes you have to ignore what your heart is saying, and listen to what your head is screaming at you.

Because your head is the sensible reasoning you should be listening to, where your heart is the illogical bit, being the devil in disguise.

Amethist

 

[Lady Michigan]

Amethist
This is True, and I know what the "right" thing to do is, of course listen to my mind. Its only been a week and a half so as of right now my heart is still hurting and being hopeful helps!
One day i will come to my senses, and move on.

 

[NikkiNikki]

As long as your heart does not get broken along the way. Do take good care of it while your waiting.

I finally had to tell my heart to shut up and listen to my head..my heart says he loves you and you love him & that he will come back. My head says its been a month since he broke up with you, he has not replied to any of your texts or emails. Its over. Move on and maybe, hopefully, he will come to and realize he made a big mistake. Having hope is not a bad thing, but I just cant keep holding on to something that is out of my hands.

 

[Nicolette]

I'm sorry for your loss Nikki but sometimes life deals us cards which do not seem fair. Wishing you all the happiness in the future and I'm glad you are not stuck in denial. A hard decision to make but a wise one.

 

[Lady Michigan]

The situation with me really sucks because I still keep in touch with his Mom and sister ( I work with him mom) and I still talk to him through text and a few calls, not as much when we were dating, but we still keep in touch. He makes me hopeful and at the same time not.
I mean should I continue to work with his mom.
She told me that even though him and I are broken up, she hopes I still will work with her, and even she is hopeful for us.
ugh....
Its hard my head is flipping & the only way to stop it would be to stop all contact with his family =( is there any other Ideas out there ? I still need help after almost 2 weeks

 

[s.jane]

Lady Michigan I can kind of relate to your situation. Although I have not talked to my guy since we broke up, his mother is constantly messaging me. She tells me how sorry she is and wishes I was not going through this. How she hopes he comes to his senses and is updating me on his life. I can't imagine what it would be like to work with his mom since it breaks my heart just hearing the updates.

I have been thinking about writing one last letter but I am not sure if I have all of my thoughts together yet. I think I am going to give myself a little more time, but it has been a month already. I can't believe that much time has gone by. I am comforted to know that I am not the only one thinking these things.

Hopefully with spring we will also be able to have new beginnings. I know there are some days where I feel like I am going to be okay and others where I can't stop thinking about everything. Good luck to everyone else who is trying to move on. I have faith that one day I will be able to.

 

[Mockingbird13]

Dear Brokensmile,

I am facing the potential of having to separate from someone I love very much. I know the suffering one goes through in making that decision.

I am sorry to read this, I hate to believe that I too may be facing the same thing. I pray we both make the right decisions

It makes me so sad to read all the posts above - there is so much pain and I can bet many many tears. We greave, we get frustrated, we blame ourselves, we blame the one we love. One day we feel empowered and know exactly what we are going to do and say - and then they bring us back down to tears. We give them space to help them, while silently it kills us inside. We wait for phone calls, emails, texts, or answers to what we think are easy questions...and we wait. Sometimes they respond sometimes not.

When I do get to see him - I see the him he used to be, and then I realize he's not the same. There are rare moments when the old him appears, adn it gives me a glimmer of hope, and it goes away as quickly as it came.

No one is at fault. PTSD just happened..... I dont hate him I hate the situation I hate PTSD !!

I am happy that we can vent together, we can relate to each other, share the good moments and the bad, but most of all support each other in our time of need.

 

[keepingpositive]

Sorry to jump on your thread but I was reading about what you have all been experiencing and it has given me comfort that I am not the only one. I also feel awful that other people are experiencing the pain I am right now. My boyfriend has told me to give him space so he can get help..... I was just wandering now that you are a few weeks down the line, how have things progressed for you?

 

[NikkiNikki]

I was just wandering now that you are a few weeks down the line, how have things progressed for you?

for me nothing has changed. We still have not talked.

 

[Lady Michigan]

s. Jane
Yes his mother is the same way each day we work, it breaks me all over again, I do to hope with Spring, the warm feeling will bring everyone back together! =)

Keeping positive

its been about a month for me, except him and I do talk here and there, but nothing else has changed He still wants his time alone, and honestly as the time goes on I have less hope. His attitude is the same. Sorry for the negative feed back but its the truth, and like my ex told me sometimes the truth hurts.