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My Husband Is Convicted Of Trying To Kill Me

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LokiBell

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On Sept. 21,2013 my husband tried to kill me. I posted that info in my introduction months ago. I have had and still have many physical issues and continue to suffer from PTSD.

Last week, during my husband's 5th hearing, I was subpoenaed to testify. The district attorney prosecuting this case asked me what I felt was an acceptable sentence, empowering me in the decision making process. At first, the plea deal on the table was 25 years, to serve 85%, which is the law where I am from, based on the violent nature of his crime. His attorney approached the DA with a shorter sentence, and asked that we take off the part of the crime that stated "with intent to kill." I refused and stood my ground. He tried to kill me, and was almost successful. To be convicted of anything less was unacceptable to me.

Throughout the day the attorneys met. I finally told the DA that I would be satisfied with 15 years, to serve 85%, and he MUST plead guilty to all charges. By late in the afternoon the DA came to me and told me he accepted the deal.

I was taken from the witness center (with my court advocate in tow) to the courtroom. My attacker stood facing the judge while I quietly entered the back of the room. I was able to hear him plead guilty to all of the charges and was able to hear the judge sentence him.

I quietly left the courtroom without him ever seeing me.

This was justice at its finest. I never gave up the fight, I never backed down. It was so very difficult to continue the fight over the last 9 months. I have overcome some significant PTSD issues I have along my journey, but still suffer. I do see a counselor weekly through my local YWCA and it is working wonders on my ability to cope.

I am also getting help with my divorce through legal aid in my county. It's been horrific this past year. I wouldn't wish this on anyone, but I'm making it one day at a time.
 
That's awesome!!! You stood your ground. And he is going to prison! Your story is like a real life Law & Order (I almost heard the ka-ching noise while I was reading it, if you know what I'm talking about). Justice prevails!!!

You know, my father nearly did the same to me. In another universe, he could have gone to prison. It's still hard for me to understand that what he did was illegal. Your story makes it easier to imagine a different reality. Thank-you.
 
@LokiBell

What a horrific experience you've had inflicted on you. I have so much admiration for you: it must have been terribly difficult to go through all you have and still stuck with the justice system and held it as well as your nearly ex-husband to account. I'm so pleased for you that you got justice that you are satisfied with.

I hope that your PTSD and any other treatment goes well and that you can slowly put your life back together.

I'm in awe of the jurisdiction where you live - victims on this side of the Atlantic almost never get any option about insisting on sentencing/plea bargaining and how the defendant must plead. As a matter of interest, what status does the complainant have in your jurisdiction? (In England & Wales, the Crown Prosecution Service decides on everything, the victim/complainant is, strictly speaking, merely a witness with little or no standing: all crime in E&W law is fundamentally held to be committed against the Crown/state. )
 
@Laura 2 i live in the United States, in Oklahoma. The county that I reside in, here in my state, is the largest county. So we have a district attorney specifically for domestic violence victims and she works directly with the YWCA, a certified battered woman shelter that also offers free counseling and court advocates. Together, they assist women like me in getting back on our feet and also in feeling empowered.

Now I'm sure if I had asked for a time that was ridiculously short or long they would gave guided me differently. The DA told me that many women get scared and back out of helping convict men such as my husband but then there are women such as myself who push forward and do what is right in spite of the struggles it brings.

I just hope that my story can make a difference in at least one person's life.

And to all of you, thank you for all of the replies. They have warmed my heart. I feel so very blessed.
 
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