Justmehere,
I am so sorry about your diagnoses and wish a speedy and as painless as possible treatment and recovery. Be sure to post as much as you need to. I know how complex it is dealing with these things when we have PTSD going on.
...and.. I am sooooo sorry about your mother. That you had to deal with this on top of everything else. I think sometimes people with healthier families don;t understand how unhelpful unhealthy ones can and will be. Yes its awful to be alone but in my experience adding an unhealthy mother into the equation just multiplies it a 100 times over!
You haven;t overreacted or reacted badly. You have reacted normally to a horrible situation. Trust yourself when it comes to what you need and what is best for you, Others won't be able to do this as well as you. You are the expert of you. Often when we are vulnerable and in pain its easy to forgot that. Or I do anyway,
My mother doesn't have PTSD but I relate to many things you discuss here. Conditions are conditions but personality and the way people react is something different. It is very hard to do anything with someone who does not have the capacity to look at themselves at all. I have thought that the ability to do so is both one of the most painful things ever but also one of the biggest tools in growth and healing. You have that skill and that will take you far. Your mother isn't a safe pair of hands when it comes to your emotional well being. She;s not capable of honouring it. You deserve better.
Much support and strength to you.
I am so sorry about your diagnoses and wish a speedy and as painless as possible treatment and recovery. Be sure to post as much as you need to. I know how complex it is dealing with these things when we have PTSD going on.
...and.. I am sooooo sorry about your mother. That you had to deal with this on top of everything else. I think sometimes people with healthier families don;t understand how unhelpful unhealthy ones can and will be. Yes its awful to be alone but in my experience adding an unhealthy mother into the equation just multiplies it a 100 times over!
You haven;t overreacted or reacted badly. You have reacted normally to a horrible situation. Trust yourself when it comes to what you need and what is best for you, Others won't be able to do this as well as you. You are the expert of you. Often when we are vulnerable and in pain its easy to forgot that. Or I do anyway,
My mother doesn't have PTSD but I relate to many things you discuss here. Conditions are conditions but personality and the way people react is something different. It is very hard to do anything with someone who does not have the capacity to look at themselves at all. I have thought that the ability to do so is both one of the most painful things ever but also one of the biggest tools in growth and healing. You have that skill and that will take you far. Your mother isn't a safe pair of hands when it comes to your emotional well being. She;s not capable of honouring it. You deserve better.
Much support and strength to you.
