My Son Invited my Mother Over - She Came - 3 Months Later Now What?

[pandora]

OK...my son has had regular phone contact with my mother since she got angry with me and stopped talking....3 months ago...no call for my birthday...didn't see her for christmas.
Anyway....she called yesterday and said i will be over in an hour. Like WTF? She comes in like nothing ever happened. I am confused between knowing that she can and will blow at any time and I will always have to walk on egg shells but i hate that she won't discuss anything after the fact...she admitted that when she blew up "I caught her on a bad day" but that was the extent of it.....no apology...she acts like nothing ever happened.
Now....she called yesterday twice and today already once. I bought a second hand fridge and it died...so now I have to get another one and she is attempting to help me find one. She is so confusing.....sometimes she is concerned other times.....she really acts like she hates me.

It is just so confusing.....Do I just expect hurt and disappiontment...or is this just a "self-fulfilling prophecy"......it is just so hard to know how much to let her back in my life because she can be so volatile and hurtful. I know she is my mom and I have to love her and she doesn't treat my son bad and he loves her. It is like now I am just waiting to piss her off again...I don't know how much to let her in anymore.

 

[Deleted member 541]

Pand,


IMO you can either sit her down and explain how you feel about her and her behavior and try to work on a relationship, you can ignore her and her behavior, or you can tell her to go to hell and get out of your life.

Other than that.... I really don't know what to tell you. As it stands right now, you are stressed from her behavior and you really don't need to be.....

Glad that you are back.....Sucks about the fridge....