KwanYingirl
Diamond Member
I took notice of the fact that she has been more symptomatic since getting married. She was raised by a crappy mother who should've been showing her how to negotiate change. The actual process of marriage is a big deal. She has many negative beliefs about her self and how she perceives herself. Again, thanks mom for beating her down time and time again. I think the new lamps represent her lack of self worth. She is struggling to make a home of her own with you but hasn't a clue what that looks like. You know how they say I've been down so long it looks like up?
She might be having intrusive memories and flashbacks which cause much anxiety. Therapy with a trauma specialist is in order. Can't you imagine that she hadn't got a clue how to cope with change? She needs help to debunk her negative beliefs, she needs assurance that you aren't going to abandon her or find fault with her nesting instinct. I have trouble even picking out a color at a paint store it's too much stimulation. Every woman wants a mom to teach her how to treat herself well. My heart goes out to both of you. If I happen to run into her mom, I'll smack her in the nose for you.
She might be having intrusive memories and flashbacks which cause much anxiety. Therapy with a trauma specialist is in order. Can't you imagine that she hadn't got a clue how to cope with change? She needs help to debunk her negative beliefs, she needs assurance that you aren't going to abandon her or find fault with her nesting instinct. I have trouble even picking out a color at a paint store it's too much stimulation. Every woman wants a mom to teach her how to treat herself well. My heart goes out to both of you. If I happen to run into her mom, I'll smack her in the nose for you.
