Ex and I have been broken up for about 6 weeks now, and haven't seen each other since late August. My last update on us, I believe, was when he msged me at 3am asking if I was awake (Oct 4th) and when I answered him about 90 minutes later, he responded "I still have a lot on my mind." Ooooooookay then.
His birthday was last week, I sent him a quick "happy birthday," and expected no response (as I always do when I contact him) and he responded about 2 hours later saying, "Aw thanks" and asked about the show I was in. I responded that it was good and I was anxious to get back and he answered, "That's good, I hope everything else is going good for you." And I told him it was and I hope everything was going good for him too. (Which I know it isnt, but it seemed like the right thing to say.)
No here's where the "I need advice" comes in:
I got a txt yesterday from my friend, who is dating Ex's cousin asking if I've talked to him. I said not since his birthday, and she told me to go look at his Facebook (I havent been on much since Tuesday, I have him hidden on my feed and I try not to look at his page, though I will admit sometimes I slip); I looked and he's had a lot of interesting statuses in the last few days alluding to the fact that he was leaving for the program (and one that apparently his friends aren't who he thought they were.) I think he's FINALLY going/gone (after talking about going since July... then again in August... then again in September..), and it's clear that he's been pushing people out of his life; maybe to make it easier to leave for whatever this program he's going to? Or maybe he really has just realized they're all scumbags.. which they are.
I've been thinking of contacting him to wish him well; I really do want what is best for him, I always have. (Cue Adele, "I wish nothing but the best for you..." :D) It's not like my contacting him is to try to get him to get back with me or anything because honestly, I have too much of my own stuff going on right now to date anyone (Unrelated, I start my own therapy program on Monday for anxiety and OCD; I need to get myself back together before I can consider dating again). It's just, we were so close and I really truly meant it when I said I was always there for him... it would just go against who I am as a person if I didnt at least try to let him know that I'm still here for him regardless of what happened with us; I just don't know if that would be helpful or hurtful to a sufferer who is going into a program. Is it like a "don't talk about it" kind of thing? I dont want to upset him.
Should I contact him? Should I just let it go? Give it a few days and then contact him? And, of course, all the while assuming I won't hear anything back?
Any insight would be helpful.
Happy weekend, everyone! :)
-JS
His birthday was last week, I sent him a quick "happy birthday," and expected no response (as I always do when I contact him) and he responded about 2 hours later saying, "Aw thanks" and asked about the show I was in. I responded that it was good and I was anxious to get back and he answered, "That's good, I hope everything else is going good for you." And I told him it was and I hope everything was going good for him too. (Which I know it isnt, but it seemed like the right thing to say.)
No here's where the "I need advice" comes in:
I got a txt yesterday from my friend, who is dating Ex's cousin asking if I've talked to him. I said not since his birthday, and she told me to go look at his Facebook (I havent been on much since Tuesday, I have him hidden on my feed and I try not to look at his page, though I will admit sometimes I slip); I looked and he's had a lot of interesting statuses in the last few days alluding to the fact that he was leaving for the program (and one that apparently his friends aren't who he thought they were.) I think he's FINALLY going/gone (after talking about going since July... then again in August... then again in September..), and it's clear that he's been pushing people out of his life; maybe to make it easier to leave for whatever this program he's going to? Or maybe he really has just realized they're all scumbags.. which they are.
I've been thinking of contacting him to wish him well; I really do want what is best for him, I always have. (Cue Adele, "I wish nothing but the best for you..." :D) It's not like my contacting him is to try to get him to get back with me or anything because honestly, I have too much of my own stuff going on right now to date anyone (Unrelated, I start my own therapy program on Monday for anxiety and OCD; I need to get myself back together before I can consider dating again). It's just, we were so close and I really truly meant it when I said I was always there for him... it would just go against who I am as a person if I didnt at least try to let him know that I'm still here for him regardless of what happened with us; I just don't know if that would be helpful or hurtful to a sufferer who is going into a program. Is it like a "don't talk about it" kind of thing? I dont want to upset him.
Should I contact him? Should I just let it go? Give it a few days and then contact him? And, of course, all the while assuming I won't hear anything back?
Any insight would be helpful.
Happy weekend, everyone! :)
-JS
