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[FrustratedHighly]

Hello All! I am a wife of a man who as suffered PTSD and many other issues for the last 10 years. I am so exhausted and frustrated by all of this. 9/11 happened right after we got married and he was sent on deployment to Afghanistan 5 days later. H came bac a completely different man. I can't tell you how many times I have cried because I want to see at least once ounce of that man again. My heart breaks daily to see him going downhill because he can't cope with life. We got word from the medical board that they say that he is fit for duty but can't be deployed. So, we are going through the appeal process as we speak and I am the only one doing the work to get this approved for medical benefit and retirement pay for all of us. He has served 16 years and is possibly getting kicked out for his past weight issues that the military has caused. In 2009 alone he was placed on 8 different meds with fluctuating dosages every other week causing his weight to sky rocket. I don't know how to help him. I have supported him for all these years and I have seen the damage that it has done to our children. I don't want to give up but everyday gets harder and harder.
We just got into an arguement about the punishments that we use on the kids. My only problem is the harsh tones that he uses with them. They are 7 and younger and he talks to them like they are one of his troops. I am so exhausted!

 

[Kintsugi]

Hi Frustrated, welcome to the forum. There are a lot of military spouses here that may be able to help you a little more specifically. I'm sure there is a big community in our supporter sections, and there is also a sister forum (linked at the top of this forum's page) called the Combat PTSD Forum that may be helpful to you. PTSD is a horrible affliction, and I know that the bureaucracy of the military doesn't help.

Has your husband sought any help from professionals outside of the VA?

 

[FrustratedHighly]

He is still active duty but yes. He has been in two different facilities for inpatient care and with the medical staff on base. They help for a while then he goes right back to where started.

 

[Kintsugi]

You can still be active duty with PTSD? That sounds awful! I'm pretty sure I'm not allowed into any of the armed forces because of my diagnosis.

 

[MurphyJB]

You can still be active duty with PTSD? That sounds awful!.

Awful, huh?
D was diagnoses while still in the Marine Corps.
When his contract was up they wanted him the re-up his contract even with his PTSD.
Ridiculous.

 

[FrustratedHighly]

Dear MissAnitSunshine,

No you would not be allowed into the military with that dianosis. My husband ws diagnosed PTSD after serving in a warzone. So it is a combat related disorder. Sorry. It doesn't sound awful. Some people just aren't aware of certain things so it is good to see out answers.