Online Porn

[cragger65]

I'm wondering, where exactly is our culture headed, and what is going to be the fall-out, of the North American "dream" of everyone over 14 years of age dressing in an increasingly provocative fashion. And I use "provocative" almost in a passe sense, since it is so prevelant now that it really isn't.

The only thing that I can think is going to come of it, is making young men feel that "the candy is being offered for free, so just take it" and the accompanying emotional damage to the young women who become the targets of that kind of thinking.

At some point in the next 20 years, every block is going to need a skilled shrink, because upward of 70% of the population is going to be in therapy either as an addict or a victim. I can't enjoy online porn anymore (I freely admit I was a junky for it about 8 years ago) because I can't help but wonder how these young women are going to feel about making the choices they have because of the social "OK" stamp that seems to be luring ones that normally would never venture into this area. Is it going to be just like the 60s love-in (not so bad), our is it going to be a cultural meltdown of epic of proportions? That's not even scratching the obvious that it's a pitri dish for rampant abuse of every sort.

It used to be such a small segment of the population involved in "the industry" but it has now become mainstream. A powerful enabler for all of the above.

I don't know man, I'm just saying...
Dave

 

[midi]

Everything in moderation, right? Porn has existed since the dawn of the caveman and his crude stone chisel. We are definitely not a society of moderation though- we like our everything large-sized, from fast food to plastic junk we don't need.

One of the current consequences of the high-tech one-hand satisfaction is the isolation both men and women are experiencing. Many men haven't even gotten intimate with women and others know only porn and hookers, so when they hook up with women, they are scared to death of performance and intimacy issues.

I know so many single and lonely men and women out there right now. It'll only get worse. In Japan, you have men and women buying doll pillows so they can hug somebody at night. In America, you've got un-socialized males who buy Real Dolls and have sex with them because they simply can't tolerate women and you've got women with batteries.

No mess, no hassle, no love.

 

[cragger65]

That's the big picture, isn't it.

 

[anthony]

Society is getting messy, that's for sure.

 

[Deleted member 541]

The world is going to hell in a hand basket...Whatever that means...There seems to be total lack of morals, respect, conscience, or any regard for anyone......Definitely, the world is becoming a scary place to be......

 

[bluejayway]

Makes it hard to shop for girl's clothing too. My 12-year-old daughter has always been on the small petite side, so thankfully we haven't had to venture to the junior section yet for clothes. The little girl's section is bad enough. School dress codes require skirts and shorts to reach a certain length, and yet most of them being sold are nowhere near long enough. It is difficult to let girls stay little for long enough these days.

 

[Grama-Herc]

I am SO GLAD I am not raising a female child today. although boys would not be easy either.

I can not believe the lack of parental participation the lives of children today.

I wonder if porn is increasing or if the information world is just making us more aware or it more available?

I just know it scares the hell out of me. I don't care what anyone does in the privacy of their own home, but keep it away from me and out of my face. I was
searching the web for ? something, can't recall what it was, but I guess my wording was not right and up popped porn. EWUUU Gross. I do know the words I used in no way would indicate I was looking porn. Imagine what kids are finding.

Now I'm terrified that I'm gonna start getting all the junk email from porn sites. I don't need that in my life.

 

[SunnyBrookFarm]

My son has a m*sp*ce account - he is also 18 yrs old. He did not have one before. Even though both of my kids are now adults - the computer is still in the hall - like it always was (we set it up that way when they were younger - no need to move it) - and he will frequently show me things he finds or I glance over his shoulder from time to time (yep - still a nosy mamma). Some of these girls even on that site - dress incredibly provactive and are in poses that you would not believe. Then I find out from my son - in most cases he knows who they are from school.....like 3 years behind him. (Which would make them about 15?!?) I worry about how these girls got so sexualized. I worry because I was certainly sexualized "before my time" - but I don't imagine I would have ever been that obvious about it. Are these girls being abused? Or is society telling them - this is what is expected.

Regardless, it truly concerns me. I agree though - where are the parents and how do these children have the ability to find porn and to post pics of themselves at such a young age?

I also agree with Anthony - society is getting messy.

 

[Manic11]

There was always pressure in high school. But these days, it's not even pressure anymore. You have to look this way and do these things. It's required. Girls that are more than 90 pounds need to lose weight for the boys to even look at them or treat them with any respect, they have to be looking "sexier" than the other girls for the boys to treat them with any respect, etc.
The boys have to be fit and tough. They have to fight and make fun of others to look cool.
This world is getting more and more fake by the minute.

My little brother who is 15 years old has a habit of sucking his thumb. He hasn't been able to kick it. He just does it while he's sleeping or in private. But I've seen many times that he'll be sitting there watching TV with his thumb in his mouth, all cuddled up in a blanket and his cell phone will ring. He will pick it up and with his thumb just outside his mouth so he can talk and all cuddled up in his blanket he'll put on the tough act. "Yo man! Waddup B****? F*** you! No man, I'm not **** sleeping! Shut the f*** up. I'll be there in like 5 f***in minutes man. Peace!"
I've never heard so much cussing in one conversation! :eek: But this is how these 15 year old's talk to each other. It's fake, it's rude, it's disgusting.

Manic

 

[Mercy]

I guess my reaction to online porn is from a different angle.

Everyone remotely connected with it is scaulded.

The watchers/consumers are burned by their lust and can become addicted.

The film makers are soiled just by being in the room when something is going on that should be private.

Those paid or forced to 'perform porn' are debased and eventually lose their own humanity.

Yet, as with every addiction, the material needs to get more and more graphic and violent to satisfy the 'need'.

I know from personal witness, that snuff is real. People and children really do die.

Don't believe porn venders who say that the film isn't real and that the childrens' faces have been photoshopped in. That's a dirty lie!

Ultimately, the porn industry is in it for the money, big money.

No matter what age I was as a child, I can never recover my innosence. They will always have me captive with every image of me they ever took.

hum,m,m,m,m....I guess this was a rant but on topic!

 

[PerfectEmpire]

What saddens me most is the isolation and lack of love, as mentioned previously in this thread.

Regarding the clothing style and language of today's young people: I feel that they too contribute to isolation and lack of love. Many girls call one another "bitch" and "ho" as pet names. And just listen to the lyrics on the popular music stations these days!

Actual lines from recent popular songs:
"Girl let me make up for the things you lack, cause you're burnin up I gotta get it fast"
"I'll let you whip me if I misbehave, it's just that no one makes me feel this way"
"Shawty was hot like a toaster, sorry but I had to fold her like a pornography poster"

The porn is now on the radio too.

On isolation and lack of love:
I have a friend who parties way too much. He got two girls pregnant last/this past year and both got abortions. I'm not making this comment to point out the abortion thingy. I'm making this comment because he told one of his male friends that it was okay to have sex with one of the girls...the day of the abortion. Like, he wasn't even phased by it. Hell, he wasn't even there nor did he care what decision she made (regarding the abortion OR sex with his friend)! Just pass her along I suppose! How numb are we becoming? Just pass her along...sex has become meaningless despite its potential implications. It's as if we have become numb to those implications...numb to life itself.

 

[Charon]

I really think its a gross over simplification to blame pornography for the state of society or for any kind of teenage angst and social isolation that people may feel. "Society" doesn't tell anyone to be anyway-magazines, movies, television, music, really just pick just about any form of media out there and that is what is influencing people.

I really don't think that young girls are watching porn, nor do I think that mature women make up a significant number of porn watchers. Men watch porn for the most part and the real allure of pornography is fantasy. 99.9% of the male viewers of porn wouldn't have a chance at ever getting some of the women in porn videos to ever be with them.

I remember years ago when "Who Framed Roger Rabbit" came out, and remember his girlfriend with the enormous rack? I saw a video where they showed it to school kids, like they were 5-6 years old, and pretty much all the girls said that they hoped that they could have big boobs like that so they could make boys do stuff. Show a young girl that she can have sexual power over a man through her attraction and she'll want to achieve a certain look. Furthermore there has never been any kind of moral condemnation of present day sluts on the screen like Paris Hilton or Teila Tequila or any of the other bimbos out there. Look at them! They have tons of money, guys fighting to try and get with them, and their own shows, lines of clothing, whatever. No "downside" to any of that is ever shown. Boys will naturally respond to this behavior because if they don't then other guys will call them fags for not being attracted to these girls shoving their bodies in their faces. Girls will think there is something wrong with boys if they don't reciprocate their come on. Heck, I've had girls think I was gay because I didn't stare at their breasts and try to get in their pants right away and these were women in their early 20's.

I believe very strongly in what Sidney Poiter said in "To Sir With Love" when he scolds the girls for how they dress and the amount of make up they wear. He said, "No man likes a slut for long. Only the worst type will marry one."