Pissed About Wifes Comment Yesterday...anyone Elses Spouse Do This?

[K-9 Al]

So yesterday my wife and I go to Truevalue. It is a small store with not a lot of people in it. We were looking for a latch for our front door. Well about 10 min in there was a loud bang from the backroom. I immediatley froze, got really focused and started scanning and waiting for any movement or noises. My wife goes, "babe, we are at truevalue, stop it!" Then in a sarcastic voice goes, "oh no some workers at True Value dropped something in the backroom." Then further said, "stop it, your safe"

What pisses me off is the sarcastic comment she made. As if to underscore the condition. Look, if I knew in my PTSD filled mine that I was safe then i wouldnt have this in the first place. HELLO!!

Does anyone elses spouse or significant other do crap like this?

 

[reddevil1111]

Mine does. She wants the same rights asme and I think she gets jealous or mad that I can get mad and yell but she cant get in my face without the risk of death.
She makes fun of me getting up 2-3 times a night to looking into a noise I hear. I walk around the house and check doors.Even the outside. I live in a very quiet place where I know I should feel safe but I dont. She mocks me a lot.
I think its the type of women we have in our life. I know there are others who dont mock and hurt. I just never meet them. I draw abusive women like a moth to the flames. I think thats tied into my childhood and that trash more than the PTSD. The PTSD just makes me more of a bastard and that give her something to focus the anger, hurt and sarcasim on.

 

[K-9 Al]

I to have childhood "experiences" (wont go into detail) but my wife is usually very supportive. She is from texas and has that southern hospitality type of character. She is freindly with everyone, well except me. I usually get the brunt of her bad days when she has them. She usaulyl apologizes afterwards but its stilla nnoying. Yesterday, was just messed up. i was mad as hell. I kept thinking, "how about you take your ass over there mulitiple times then come back and deal with what i have to f*cking deal with." For those people that dont believe PTSD is real they need a wake up check. They need to sit in our shoes for just 24 hrs. Thats all i ask. 24 hrs. go through the emotions during the day AND at night. Nighttime is so much worse for me.

Anyone else's symptoms get a lot worse once the sun goes down?

 

[Zipperhead]

I think we lash out at the better half because we can't beleive that they are still here. We are expecting them to leave anyday now and kind of want to just get it over with. It's so easy to start the fight. It's allot harder to suck back and reload. When I stop and think of all the useless arguements over chicken shit I really have to wonder why she's still hanging around. It's definately not for the money (a retired Sgt pension is not all that great) and it's definately not due to any skill after hours. I feel for you there, but make sure your going the right way before you start jumping.

 

[Jimmy1]

I think we lash out at the better half because we can't beleive that they are still here. We are expecting them to leave anyday now and kind of want to just get it over with. It's so easy to start the fight. It's allot harder to suck back and reload. When I stop and think of all the useless arguements over chicken shit I really have to wonder why she's still hanging around. It's definately not for the money (a retired Sgt pension is not all that great) and it's definately not due to any skill after hours. I feel for you there, but make sure your going the right way before you start jumping.

I tend to agree mate. My wife actually left and I have a new fiancee now. She has accepted me as I am.

What I don't think about is all the times that I have gone off like a frog in a sock over stupid piddly shit, and she has stood by me. It must seriously be hard for them sometimes. All they want is the glimmer of the happy person we can be rather than the nasty selfish person we sometimes are.
It would be so easy to be in a comfort zone thinking that they will stick around, and if they do leave we have proven that nobody wants to be around us.

Just my opinion K9 Al, but maybe she saw it as a trivial incident and did not see it as you saw it. Give your wife the credit she is due for sticking around. She must truly care for you and have iron skin.

 

[K-9 Al]

Jimmy,

Good advice with your last sentence. She actually did apologize tonite. We were on our way back from training with my service dog and said she felt bad about it. She said sometimes its just hard because she doesnt really understand what I have or how to help for that matter. She always asks, "how can i help you" but i never really have an answer because frankly i do no tknow.

 

[Fargo1]

My girl just said almost the same thing to me. She wants to help, but does not know how. She tries to be sympathetic...we all know how well that goes over. She tries to be understanding, but she does not understand. So she just has to sit there watching her big strong, tough guy freaking out in the corner because someone dropped a plate or a little kid is crying in a restaurant. So I give her kudos for putting up with that. However, the sarcastic comments and shit like that is a sure-fire way to bring out the Beast. It is kinda like poking a stick at the tiger in the cage. It is all fun and games until the claws come out and someone is standing there without an arm....