Poll PTSD and Marriage - How Many Times Have You Been Married?

[kriskats]

Two engagements (the second was emotionally/verbally abusive...but I was young, before being diagnosed with PTSD), and one marriage, divorced now for almost 8 yrs. Several long term relationships after the divorce, until I realized why all of those relationships didnt work...they were all controlling men.

Yup, I am much stronger now...and alone. Although it is strange, I appear to have a thing for military men...?

 

[suzie q]

I married late in years compared to those I grew up with. I was 26 and thought I had my sh*t together. WRONG!!!

The good news is that we have been together for 23 years each having serious traumas to work through. We are both addicts (recovering), both have very disfunctional families, and both have PTSD. After the first 6 years of bouncing off each other one was smart enough to seek professional help and started the healing process. The other eventually realized that help was available and sought their path. Fortunately, we stayed together and, having no children, was able to work independently, then together on our problems. We are both very stubborn, controlling, and hardheaded. Working on our addictions seperately opened the door to help with our individual and combined marital problems. We never gave up and don't ever intend to...

But we are both lucky and blessed to have each other and are able to see our own crap and take actions to get rid of it. We are so different that many say they are suprised we haven't killed each other. We have learned to agree to disagree and move to more positive things. I think that a higher power has a hand in our staying together...

 

[Marie E.]

No offense to anybody else, but thank God I did not get married for various negative reading and for those who are content and happy, I'm glad for you:)

 

[KP the nut]

I was 19 when I met my future husband. We were engaged within 6 weeks and married within 6 months. And I couldn't see why my Mum had a problem with that;).

We will have been married 31 years in April, he is my life, my love, my rock, my best friend and I respect him.

 

[Marie E.]

Lucky You!!:)

 

[KP the nut]

Lucky You!!:)

It goes both ways, we are lucky to have each other - it is a good partnership

 

[Srain]

I will go on record that I probably have been married more times than anyone I know and probably I win the boobie prize of being married than anyone on this site

Well, Gloria

I don't know how many times you've been married but I've been married more times than anyone I've known in my life. Maybe because I'm just not much on dating or I just love being married. Don't get me wrong, I've had some years in there where I've had time by myself so I'm quite able to enjoy my own company and I've had 2 marriages that have lasted quite some time, there's just been a few that came and went in a blink of an eye, just bad news.

I'm glad I never gave up on love and marriage :)

Rain

 

[dragonflymom]

I've been married twice, 7 years to my ex who cheated on me and abused me, and now 3 years to my wonderful current husband who has been helping me pick up the pieces that my ex left me in.

In my mind I really don't count the first as a husband anymore, he broke his vows and everything that a husband is supposed to be. And abused me when I asked him to take care of his own child.

 

[Sterre]

I'm not married, and most likely never Will get married. Relationships are hard for me, they trigger me to great extend. I have never lived together with a lover. My realitionships can only go well when there is enough space and time to myself.

I think my realationship with my two dogs compares somewhat to a marriage ;-)

 

[MistyLu]

I have been married once, divorced him because of him being abusive and did not see a problem with hitting me. 8 years later I am back with him and living in a nightmare. He is so controlling and not sympathetic at all. All he cares about is that he isnt getting laid. Sorry for being a bit vulgar, but he seriously said he would rather f**k himself, because I have too many rules.

I have ptsd from being molested by my step father. My mother did nothing for 20 years to stop it. And he wonders why he is not getting any!!!! Come on!

 

[Nicolette]

That's sad MistyLu. I hope you find the strength to get yourself out of living in a nightmare.

While I totally get your molestation and its affects; maybe you are not right for each other if he cannot be compassionate towards your situation nor you being able to provide him with what is obviously important to him. No rights or wrongs; some people just don't fit when it comes to that kind of thing.

 

[MistyLu]

I am beginning to think that we are not right for each other at all. I keep trying to push the idea of us splitting up out of my head tho, because of our kids. It would crush them.