Ptsd and other serious diseases

[Pjj]

Hi all,

I have had an amazing few days since joining this site meeting wonderful people but today I went to a doctor who heard crackling in my lungs. I went and got an X-ray and the radiologist advised me to call my doctor this afternoon. That crap doesn't happen unless there is something there.

I had attributed the nausea, diarrhoea etc to anxiety but oh crap this is not news I want to hear. My wife, a PTSD sufferer has in the last four years suffered brain haemorrhages, my step daughter (also a CSA survivor) died 3 years of cancer and right now I am off work due to my complaint of sexual harassment bringing back flashbacks of sexual abuse.

Equally, due to military service, I have been through an explosive accident and my lungs are crap anyway.

Recently through both therapy and this site, I feel that I understand myself. Yes I am already in therapy. I Slso support my brother in law with schizophrenia.

So now you have the picture, and given what you have all been through, any advice for me especially how to treat those closest to me? I am expecting a major crises and want to take whatever preventative steps I can
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Thanks in advance all

 

[FauxLiz]

@Pjj I am sorry to hear that you are expecting a major health issue I am hoping that since you wrote you have spoken to your doctor and the news is nothing more than pneumonia. I can't give you any advice related to pre-planning for health crisis as the most significant health crisis I have endured included a trip to the ER to find out I needed brain surgery. The best advice I can give you is to breathe, take care of yourself and keep coming here for support.

 

[provencepearl]

It sounds like your family (larger) is not supportive. Been there. You need a positive support group. One in real life would be good. You might look for a local chapter of ACA or ACoA. This stands for Adult Child(ren) of Alcoholics. It is a 12 step program. It does no have to have been alcohol. It can be drugs or dysfunctional behavior of any kind. If your family is not supportive, that would be considered dysfunctional.

So many people these days are so selfish they have no empathy for anyone going through trauma of any kind (or misfortune). When it is happening to them, however, they expect everyone to drop everything and make them a priority.

At this time, if they are not for you, you need to keep your distance and find people who are supportive. You have to take care of you. Your health cannot be put on hold. Be supportive of your wife and allow her to be supportive of you. You are a team and are there for each other. Keep us informed as the situation progresses.

 

[Deleted member 541]

You have a lot on your plate right now, and I suggest that you become a bit selfish and take care of yourself first... It does sound bad, so make sure that you have good doctors around you and try to find some kind of support!!!!

 

[Friday]

On the upside, I've found that my PTSD symptoms back waaaaay the hell down when I'm experiencing a major health crisis. On the downside? Yeah. Sick as f*ck.